I am a 23F was recently having a rough time financially due to increasing rent prices and general cost of living. I was making it by but overall didn’t have the best quality of life (I work full time). My mother offered for me to move back into house a month ago as my lease was coming to an end, we both agreed it would be a good option so until a week ago I was living back at home. She helped pay for movers, so we could transfer all my stuff over.
Last week when I got home from work and went to have some of my THC gummies (prescribed by a doctor) and they weren’t anywhere in my room. When I asked my mum where they were she said that she "didn’t want drugs in her house". At this point admittedly I did lose my cool and yelled at her. I was furious that she didn’t communicate that this would be an issue when she offered to house me when she has known that I take them nightly. Also why not ask before throwing them out and have a conversation. After that I cried then when she was asleep packed my bags and have been staying on a friends couch while looking for a more permanent place to stay. I still keep on contact on the phone and have visited her but every conversation turns into how ungrateful I am and that I have an addiction. Yesterday she even said that if I don’t move back in I would have to pay her back for the movers.
NTA, should have clarified before if you knew her stance before moving in tbf
She should pay you back for the gummies first before expecting payment for the movers. 🤔
I’m not really upset about the gummies, just that I use them to sleep and I feel bad having to Burdon other people while i quickly sort out a lease
THC is terrible for sleep quality. But its great to PUT you to sleep, you just don’t get to experience as much “REM” sleep as you would if you were sober. Its the biggest downside for me
That’s why most edibles have CBD. Low dose THC with CBD is perfectly fine for sleep. Especially if you take breaks from it.
NTA. Your mother disposed of legally prescribed medication without giving any warning. That is not house rules its is a breach of trust.
That’s How I feel, I would have understood if she told me before. But just throwing it out was an insane move
NTA
This is where you, an adult, sit down with your mother and explain that
1. She’s not getting a dime from you for the movers, that was her choice that she made and there was no stipulation to that gift. It was just that, a gift. Gifts don’t come with stipulations.
2. She had no right to throw out your property. You are 100% correct. If she had an issue with it, she should have addressed it before you moved in. Secondly, you are also correct that when she discovered them and had an issue with it, she should have spoken to you and told you that she doesn’t want them in her house.
3. You are not ungrateful and you do not have “an addiction”. They are a prescribed medication. No different than Ambien or any over the counter sleep aid. As long as you are not abusing them (eating a whole package every single day or something along those lines), they are perfectly safe. Just like a Tylenol PM.
Speaking as someone that has developed serious sleep issues, she needs to be educated on how dangerous it is to go without proper sleep. It can cause memory problems and eventually can lead to strokes and heart attacks. I can only assume that’s why you take them. Cause who takes an edible before bed when they don’t need it… Also, Doctors don’t go around handing out prescriptions for things people don’t actually need. At least not for weed/edibles. I wouldn’t think there’s much to gain from that.
I agree I am not going to pay her for anything. She is just trying to pressure me.
Nta
Also nta if you file a police report for theft/destruction of property.
I agree philosophically but I think in practice the escalation is entirely unnecessary, since OP was able to leave the situation so fast.
hmmmm parental abuse, my favorite /s
NTA
You’re NTA, and I’m frankly impressed that you didn’t stay in that abusive situation even though life is very hard for you right now. Your mother is financially and emotionally abusive. She isn’t letting up because if you don’t roll over and apologize, she can’t tell herself that she’s in the right. You should stop talking with her.