Posting here because my household is calling me a bitch and worse names.
Basically my entire family and some of their partners live together. (all adults over 22). We all pay rent and bills etc and we do communal meals.
I was working today but came home sick and puking. Proceeded to puke and bile for hours and hours as it slowly calmed down.
Dinner comes around and I’m told to only take a bite or two (a single tablespoon was used ) so that I don’t waste if I can’t stomach it and that I can come back for my full portion later if I feel better.
Two hours pass and the puking has stopped and after not keeping anything down all day I’m stoked to eat more than a tablespoon of food.
I go to get it and nope. They’ve not only eaten my portion of food but they’ve had to nerve to package up the “leftovers” and say I can’t touch it as it’s one of their lunches. I argue it can’t be a leftover lunch as there was no food leftover, just a few bites left of what was supposed to my dinner portion.
I start to cry and complain as this is the only food leftover that’s in the house that doesn’t require at least 30-45 minutes of cooking and I’ve been puking all day so unrealistic.
I’m called all sorts of names and told to eat other things except they’ve helped themselves to pretty much everything that’s safe to eat with my allergies.
I wouldn’t have minded if I was given a heads up this morning that whoever was cooking hadn’t actually bought enough ingredients to comfortably feed everyone.
I mind that it’s 8pm at night and I’m sick expecting a meal and they ate it. I have to go to bed hungry after puking my guts out all day.
So am I the Asshole for complaining and crying about the lack of dinner ?Should I just have accepted that I cant tonight and have to wait til tomorrow to eat? Or should I have expected this to be the situation? I’ve alway left a plate of food for anyone who’s been sick because they paid for it and maybe they will eat later or want to eat it in the morning.
Or am I Justified in being upset and crying (embarrassingly intensely) over this situation?
I’m so tired and sick that I don’t even know if I can think straight so this is overwhelmingly emotional for me
NTA, they did buy enough ingredients to comfortably feed everyone, someone is just being selfish and has taken the final potion for lunch. Leftovers are only leftovers if everyone has eaten and had enough.
There’s been an issue the last few weeks where there hasn’t been enough. Last week my BIL had five giant tacos and everyone else had two which is fine except my father complained privately to me all evening that he usually has three and was still hungry. I’m really worried this is going to be an ongoing issue
Sounds like someone needs to confront your BIL, or/ and meals need to be plated so everyone gets an equal portion rather than serve yourself. If there are any leftovers people can then help themselves to seconds.
If it was me, I’d just eat that portion anyway, and tell the others where they can go
NTA.
I have no words to describe your family.
NTA. I’d have eaten the leftovers. I mean you might as well–they’re being asses either way.
NTA, wtf is wrong with the people in your household.
Just eat the leftovers.
Why cry? Someone’s gotta suck it up. Let them. Anyways they are calling you names either way.
NTA stop doing communal meals if they do stuff like this
NTA, with all respect wtf is this family? How can they treat you like this when you’re one of them. You’re sick they should be taking care of you instead of that they’re treating you in such a disgusting way.
Just eat the leftovers.
NTA. But you need to learn to be an adult and stand up for yourself. Rather than cry, just say that you have been ill and it’s your right to have that portion of dinner. Who are they to say what portion of food you can have in the first place? Rationing your food because of your illness is strange. Makes me wonder about previous behaviors. They’re treating you like a child.
“Leftovers” are just that. They’re left over after everyone has eaten. You haven’t eaten so there aren’t leftovers, just your portion. Go eat your dinner. The other person will need to figure out lunch for themselves since there wasn’t leftovers.
NTA take what whoever packed your portion as their lunch! They can find something else instead of basically stealing your dinner. And don’t feel bad about it, especially with the way they’ve treated you.
If they’re already calling you a ‘bitch’ you might as well eat it you have nothing else to lose from that.