I went to see the new movie Wicked For good (don’t worry won’t spoil anything) with my brother. I am a 16 year old gay man and like to dress very feminine at times. My ramily including my brother is fine with this but recently I have experimented alot more with different clothing. One of my favorites is this long white skirt that goes down to my ankles and I love how I feel when I’m wearing it. Wicked was a huge moment for me last year because I felt so connected to the movie. The movie helped me to be braver about how I present myself to the world and that is why I started experimenting with more feminine clothing. So I obviously wanted to dress nicely to see the second part. My brother as I said is ok with how I dress but usually just ignores it. How ever when we were getting ready to see the movie he looked at me and said "are you going to wear that" I said yes and also showed that I had pants under the skirt since I thought he meant that I would get cold. Then he said "you can’t go out like that" and I asked why. He said that he would get embarrassed being at the movies with me dressed as a "femboy".This comment really hurt me and I just said that I didn’t care about his opinion and that I was going to wear it anyway to wich he said nothing. We went to see the movie and he tried to hide his face under a hood during the whole walk there and also said that I was "fetcing attention" at the movies because I cried out loud during the film but I did cover my mouth trying to not make any sounds to disturb. I really enjoyed the movie but I kept thinking about my brothers comment and now I’m still thinking about it. Please share your thoughts and also I want to apologize for any miss typings since english is not my first language and I’m using a phone to type this so my fat fingers sometimes press wrong letters. Anyways let me know what you think. And thank you in advance!
NTA it’s a skirt, he can get over himself.
NTA. It’s a freakin’ skirt; no big deal. But you need to also remember that he’s allowed to feel uncomfortable with it. 🩷💚
NTA, men have been wearing skirts for the majority of humanity’s time on this planet. It’s a social construct. Clothes don’t have a gender.
Any teenager who has the confidence to express themselves creatively should be admired and encouraged.
Definitely NTA, keep slaying with that skirt!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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THIS!
I bet you looked amazing! 🤩
NTA
And whilst your brother definitely should not have said what he did, give him credit for going anyway, however reluctantly.
It sounds like he does want to accept you, but he’s scared of getting harassed. Nothing happened, so he’ll be less scared next time. I’d suggest discussing it with him. He did actually go to the cinema with you so he is trying. I’d still expect an apology for his disgusting homophobic comment though
As a Scotsman who’s worn a kilt on many occasions….. wear whatever makes you happy 😊
NTA your brother’s insecurities are not your problem, and reflect on him not you.
I’m going with NTA. As a lot of people have said, you wear whatever you want.
As for crying like a child during the movie, I did too. I was an emotional wreck, and I loved it! I’m glad you did too.
NTA Wear your skirt. Cry during movies. But remember that his brother has changed a lot over the past year.
And how old is he? He could get a lot of trouble from peers at certain ages.
NTA — it sounds like you dress feminine regularly, not like only in the privacy of your own home? So I wonder what triggered him this specific time… is the skirt way over the top compared to a traditional everyday style? Like hoop skirt or something unusual like that?
I’m not saying you *shouldn’t* have worn something like that; I’m just genuinely curious why he would be bothered when he usually isn’t.
I went to a live musical last night and there were tons of people dressed up for the occasion. I would imagine Wicked fans would be similarly excited and dressed up. I’m sorry that his reaction dampened the mood for you, but you’re definitely NTA.
Nta.
You can wear anything you please its noones business but your own and you always deserve to be true to yourself at all times regardless of anyone else’s opinion on the matter
But your brother is not responsible for the gender polarisation of society and its stupidly judgemental attitudes towards anything it thinks is different from its perceived norms. Its a societal issue and while your brother should do his best to rise above that he didn’t ask to fight that battle and the societal consequences of it effects him just as much as it does you.
A dress is over the top. If you’re androgynous looking you could have just done a middle of the road look. Are you in a small funky conservative town? Depending on where you live many people may mistake you for a sex worker. You were making a statement definitely but with your brother present and in a social situation. You potentially put him in danger as well and are putting him in the possibility of being gossiped about as well. You do you but the skirt was too much. Can you pass or did it just come off as uncomfortably embarrassing for you? You apparently don’t have the self awareness yet either. It takes alot of work to be able to pass. Yes you’re the AH and worse you don’t even understand and have to ask internet strangers to break it down nice and simple for you to understand.