I (18M) have experienced cat allergies for ~3 years. My symptoms are: Eye irritation, sneezing, and headaches. Recently my GF (19F) adopted a kitten. I didn’t think she would. I thought her mentioning the possibility of adopting a cat was more of a hypothetical idea. When she showed me the kitten originally I told her I’m allergic to cats, to which she replied she didn’t know. I very strongly believe I told her on a few occasions, but in her defense I probably didn’t mention it enough. Recently we have been talking about moving in together, to which I told her she would have to buy me antihistamines. She is a bit upset at the idea of purchasing a daily amount of antihistamines, especially since we agreed to split all other living costs 50/50. However, I am very firm on my belief that it’s her responsibility to finance the medication. Alternatively, I offered to experiment with allergy relieving cat food, and exposure therapy, but all of these would have to wait for a break period in school. For reference, I love this cat and I want her to keep it. AITA for expecting her to pay for medication for me?
Just don’t move in together.
TLDR You are not a good candidate for a long term relationship. If you need medicine, buy it yourself.
Buy your own medicine or don’t move in.
YTA if you move in together knowing you’re allergic and she has a cat. I’m pretty sure living with a cat could make your allergies even worse.
Please don’t move into a home with a cat. Allergy medicine can help, but living with something you’re allergic to can also cause long term health issues like asthma. Your health should come first and this isn’t going to work. YTA for expecting your girlfriend to pay for your medicine.
You’re really not ready to move in or be in a serious relationship if you’re keeping score like this.
YTA buy your own medication or dont move in
ESH. Your girlfriend, if she cared about your happiness as much as she does hers, should have discussed this with you and you would ideally decide this together. You, nickel and diming her over $20 worth of medicine does not say great things for the financial future/health of your relationship. Everyone is wrong here. Her lack of consideration for your health/happiness/comfort is much, much worse on the “can we live together as equal partners” scale, though.
YTA- I used to be heavily allergic to cats (bloody noses, asthma attacks, swollen eyes) I loved cats and sometimes had to stay over at ppl’s places that had cats, I never used to make them pay for allergy meds. You’re literally choosing to move in with her. It might actually do you some good , exposure therapy helped me by getting a cat (who happens to have long hair) and now I can put my face on her fur and use it as a pillow with no reaction
Here’s an even easier way to handle it: break up so you don’t need to live with her kitten and she doesn’t need to buy your antihistamines.
I don’t think either one of you is mature enough for this to work out.
You’re too young to be moving in together.
Ffs
YTA – she’s not your mom. Adults take responsibility for themselves. If you choose to move in with her, you choose to take on the potential burden of living with her cat and all that that entails. If you don’t want to deal with that? Don’t move in together. Telling her to pay for your meds is a ridiculous tit for tat and immature.
Are you going to buy her birth control?
Buy your own medicine!!