I work in a team of 3 at the call center. There’s me, my friend whom I’ve been friends with for 10 years and a female coworker. For a while I’ve had problems with her: she blames everyone but herself for her own mistakes, she constantly tries to get us to do her job, acts like the boss all the time. Whenever the 3 or more of us go out to hang out, it feels more like 2 simps following a twitch streamer than 3 friends hanging out together. She’s hard headed and frequently attacks me when I get angry during work for one reason or another, all while she does the same thing. Nobody talks back to her when she’s yelling or snapping.
This sunday, the 3 of us and another coworker were supposed to go to a restaurant, I’m currently on my vacation. They were having trouble deciding where and when to go, I popped in and said "when you guys decide on the details, let me know so I can organize", to which she said "you’re not working go find something instead of blabbing", after I accused her for attacking me, she said "you’re sitting at home go do something instead of throwing the ball in other people’s courts". She then made a reservation at the restaurant for the wrong day, after I pointed it out, she said "it happens when you’re the only one doing anything". She corrected it then said "Next time whoever isn’t helping with organizing a hangout doesn’t have to bother showing up". I finally decided to stop keeping my mouth shut and said "then you can feel free to change the reservation to 3 people, I won’t spend my free time around someone who’s attacking me, please and thank you", then I left the online group that had 4 of us in it and unfollowed her on IG. I now believe she will go to certain extents to make my work life shittier since I’m sitting right next to her, and she’s the only woman in the office so she has protection from the boss, which could make things even worse.
NTA because she was being mean and it’s okay to get upset about it
Why are you choosing to hang out with someone you don’t like and who obviously doesn’t like you?
Up until now I felt like I had to endure (what I believed to be) flaws in people I hang out with in order to not become deprived of social contact, also because I felt like it would make my day to day work life a living hell if I wasn’t at least on good terms with her.
But not anymore. As I am now i would rather be alone than be with someone I dont like.
ESH
You are both behaving like passive agressive assholes.
You did nothing to help in organising and got offended when she pointed it out. She was waay too touchy about a simple mistake.
You two obviously don’t like each other, so stop spending time together
That’s likely for the best. All I can hope for now is that she doesn’t do things to ruin my day during work, since she holds grudges like a motherfucker.
It seems like you do too, tbh.
What’s “2 simps following a twitch streamer”?
Are y’all in 5th grade?
I had to stop reading halfway through. You are all horrendous. That sounds like the most unprofessional workplace in the world.
You don’t even know the half of it.
I work with someone like her who also tries to sabotage me professionally. Make it clear you are colleagues not friends. She must treat you as a colleague. Document everything.
She has disgusting behavior… you gotta just keep it cool at work now, say hi and ignore her if she says anything foul. She’s a co-worker.. just work. The tension will fizzle but at least you set the boundary now. YOU COULD SAY “sorry about the approach, i didn’t like the way you were speaking to me and i should of handled it better but you were trippin”
Wow. Is everyone 16 years old? What is going on here.