I got my(33F) nose pierced last Friday. Its a very small left nostril piercing. I am registered nurse, single and I live alone. My job has no problem with this, in fact multiple nurses have nose piercings and visible tattoos. I have always listened to her and lived in a strict household, to the point that I still have my virginity because I am scared of what my mom thinks. I have my own house. My mom (58F) is recently (like in the last 6 years) has become religious. And I joined the apostolic faith with her but not as extreme as she is. I have always done what she wanted; if I don’t, I get yelled at or silent treatment. So now, I went against anything she wanted, she flips out and hasn’t talked to me. She threaten to tell the elder and everyone about it in church. I told her she could and that I wasn’t taking it out. She also said that bad stuff was going to happen to me because I let a portal of evil to enter my body. It isn’t attractive and its rebellious. Mind you, I have my ears pierced (they have been pierced since I was a baby. AITA because of this?
What? Girl, you need a break. Cut those apron springs. You’ve been a full grown adult for a decade and a half. It’s time to set some boundaries.
YTA for letting someone else run your life like this. You only get one life. Time to live it.
>So now, I went against anything she wanted, she flips out and **hasn’t talked to me.**
That sounds awesome. You should do more things she hates so she leaves you the hell alone.
NTA.
I stopped reading at 33F. NTA.
Nta, your body is your temple, decorate and celebrate your body as you see fit.
This is a toxic relationship. You are a nurse. If an adult patient spoke to you about their mother controlling their life and their fear of repercussions for making their own choices about their life and their own body, what would you recommend?
Hopefully distance and counseling
Stopping at 33F, NTA — she can’t control what you put on your body. This is a narcissistic relationship.
NTA.
Congrats on finally thinking for yourself!!! Keep on this trajectory and you might start to actually discover who you are without your mothers toxic input obfuscating the matter.
Might i suggest a prolonged period of no contact? sounds like it would do you good, cause what i just read is pretty fucked up and it makes me sad for you and all the living you’ve missed out on.
Girl you are THIRTY THREE years old. Your mom will be alright and may learn a lesson in minding her business and letting a grown woman control her own body.
Yta but not for a nose piercing; for being 33 a full adult with full adult responsibilities and allowing someone else to control and remove your autonomy. It’s cool to believe whatever you want but don’t allow the rules/expectations of others to keep you from living your life or being your true self. You’re still a virgin because you fear your mother not because it’s something you decided was best for you. Go to therapy, find god for yourself and live in a manner that not only makes you happy but that you can live with. Cut the umbilical cord already
Please seek more therapy for this bizarre relationship with your mother. I’m almost 33 and stopped giving a shit what my mother thinks when I was 15. Why would your mother even know if you slept with a man/woman? This is weird.