Genuinely wondering… My roommate, a guy, hooked up with a girl. I don’t think they even went through with it and we stopped speaking to one another after awhile because I got lunch with her once and sent her a private venmo.
I’m 27 and trans fem, this happened in college and I don’t even like girls. I had some straight friends back then and they seemed to think I gossip when I don’t. I couldn’t care less. I had talked to her from time to time and ended up getting food with her because she was fun. He was never brought up! I sent her a private venmo. I just didn’t want to deal with the dumb shit.
Later, I made a happy birthday post on his fb with a joke and she was the only person who liked it. It was stupid she did that and it made me look bad. I still didn’t do shit or talk about him. After the post I knew he would be mad. I didn’t know how to tell him and eventually he ghosted me. It’s not even a big deal so I don’t feel like an asshole. I just don’t like him going around telling people I am one.
NTA. If it comes up, you can try something like “I didn’t realize I wasn’t allowed to be friends with people (roommate) also knows. Are we even allowed to be friends? Since he also knows you, and all. I wouldn’t want to set him off again.” Highlights how ridiculous his tantrum was.
Yeah! I like really wanted to talk about it but I thought if it was brought up it would like backfire on me pull an uno reverse and he would go off on me. It was so long ago it’s okay, it seemed too sensitive
NTA, I don’t see how anything you did here was bad. Possibly the joke on your roommate’s birthday if it made him look bad, but you said it was fine so I fail to see any assholeyness.
If any woman I know got lunch my my girlfriend I would be nothing but happy she’s being social and hanging out with people.