My girlfriend has been dancing Bachata for a few years now and been going to social dance events occasionally as well. I’ve known about this since the beginning and fully support it because she loves to dance. I’m not at all interested in dancing myself so I rarely ask about it. I looked it up on instagram a while ago and I guess the algorithm decided to show me both Bachata and Kizomba in my feed. I asked her if she also had tried Kizomba which she said she had. Once when she took a beginner class and once when she went to a Kizomba social dance. This is where I got mad because I felt this would be something to bring up before she decided to try it. Kizomba is significantly more intimate and sensual. From what it look like it’s basically grinding. She maintains that she didn’t think I’d care and it’s only dancing. I mean sure but there is a difference between a dance like Lindy Hop and Kizomba.
dude, if you’re gonna be mad about her dancing, you might as well put a leash on her. she’s gotta have her fun too, right?
Yta. Based on your logic, guys aren’t allowed to go spar wrestling or bjj on the mat.
YTA
Grow up!!
Grow up. Or don’t be in a relationship.
YTA you rarely ask about something that your girlfriend obviously loves doing? May her next boyfriend care about her 🙏
YTA it’s just dancing, if you actually took an interest in her and her hobbies you could have found out more, supported her and learned more about it yourself. Work in your insecurities.
YTA, she dances. Either you trust her or you don’t.
YTA you are not interested enough to care for who knows long and now you watch some stupid yt video and decide to be upset? About a hobby you knew she had and were initially fine with? So weird dude grow up, maybe take a dance lesson or two
YTA, this is the kind of behavior that’s going to push her away.
If you knew she likes to dance and has been doing it as a hobby before you two were even together then you need to chill out and take it at face value. It’s just dancing.
Learn to dance yourself and join her if you feel so uncomfortable you’re going to start banning the classes she can take.
YTA. You need to grow up. It’s dancing, that’s literally all.
YTA. If you showed any interest in your gfs hobby by just talking to her about it, you’d know more, you’d understand more, instead of just getting triggered by a video you saw.
YTA,. Bachata and Kizomba have a lot of hip movement but calling it basically grinding shows how little you really care about her interests. If you don’t want her to dance with strangers, maybe show some interest in her hobbies and go with her.
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‘My girlfriend has a hobby she really loves but I never ask her about it because I’m not interested. When I did take a tiny bit of interest I got insecure and angry at her because I didn’t understand it and I wasn’t capable of having a conversation so I decided she just shouldn’t do it. Am I the bad guy?’
Get a grip.