My now ex girlfriend was cheating on me my garage is full of her stuff. Shes also an addict. In June I took her to rehab and she left the next day with her dealer/EX who she was having an affair with. We tried to work it out but she is also a dismissive avoidant and in 8 weeks I saw her all of 4 hours while she stays with her “ex”. I Stop paying for her phone and other things and gave her 21 days to get her stuff. It’s now been a month and I’m throwing it all away. She hasn’t lived here since June when I took her to rehab. AITA by getting rid of her stuff. I just can’t live with her ghost forever and I feel bad but, I don’t know. Feels like it’s time.
as long as you have it writing that she had x amount of time, it’s now yours to do with what you will… NTA
I do. And she relied to that email so I know she got it.
You gave her enough time. If she hasn’t been back, obvs she doesn’t need them.
As long as you retain messages showing you have done your due diligence to tell her you are giving her how many days to collect, and now that you’re tossing them.
NTA, you gave her a notice that is required. She never responded. You are well within your rights to get rid of it.
NTA
I’m sorry you got roped into this and tbh I’m sorry you even feel like you could be the asshole after everything she put you through. I get there will have been good times throughout the relationship but there’s just so so many layers of disrespect here.
You gotta wash your hands CLEAN of this one OP
She have family nearby you could drop it off at? That way it won’t bug your conscience?
Her mom is picking up things that are family hand me downs.
Nta that’s more than enough time for her to have moved her things out of your place. I would venture to guess that’s not a priority for her.
NTA. You did your due diligence and notified her of the amount of time she had to collect her belongings. Time to toss them. Though if she has nearby family you could get in contact with them and ask to give them her things to get back to her so you don’t feel so bad about it maybe? It’s up to you really, but it truly is time to move on
NTA, Just take it and dump it all at her ex’s place.
That’s what I want to do! Lol
The first 30 days, you are responsible. It’s a bailment. If not claimed in 30 days, it is abandoned. You can discard it. Check your local law, but that’s usually how it goes.
NTA, honestly anyone would have gotten rid of it by now. She has clearly moved on bro and your garage isn’t a store also given the fact that you gave her enough time to come pick it up..
NTA you don’t own a storage unit. If you think you’ll feel bad, you could text her and say “it’s been a month since you were given 21 days to remove your property. It is going to the dump in three days.”