Okay so for some context, a few weeks ago my friend lost his grinder. My other friend found it and gave it to my kindof boyfriend. The friend who lost the grinder didnt know for sure that my bf had it, but he offered a free gram of weed to whoever snitched on my bf. My girl friend snitched and since i had access to my bfs house i was given a free 0.5 of weed to get an excuse to use the grinder so i could bring it back.
I didn’t really know what to do because I wanted to tell my boyfriend that he got snitched on but she told me not to because she didnt want to get involved, even though she had already gotten involved by snitching. My boyfriend was in danger of getting jumped if he didnt give the grinder back as far as Im aware so I was trying to convince him at his house to give it back himself but he didnt want to so i did it myself.
I gained the respect of my friends again and they are all dropping my boyfriend as a friend. The reason they lost respect for me is because my boyfriend had cheated on me a few months prior and i kind of forgave him. The reason i said kind-of boyfriend was because we are acting as we did while we were dating but we just dont have the official title…….yet depending on what i decide, anyway its just easier to say bf instead of kobf. I’m in love with him and I feel like he’s changing for the better, but he has a really bad reputation and it’s hurting my reputation. I’m known as a desperate whore.
So anyways he’s pissed at me for giving my friend the grinder back and someone is probably going to get jumped. My boyfriend and my grinder friend have been beefing for a while too, it started when my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me, and my friend stood up for my and my boyfriend got mad because he felt like my friend was getting involved where he shouldnt.
I am currently trying to reconcile with my boyfriend at the moment because at the end of the day i love him. I just wish he wouldnt carry so much drama with him.\[ AITA?
YTA if you get back together with that dude. He’s clearly bad news and everyone can see it but you.
YTA he so is kobf – he cheated on you & stole from someone seems it’s to yourself for putting up with that.
But he’s getting better!
ESH your bf because he refused to give the grinder back knowing who’s it was. At the very least it wasn’t stolen by him directly but given by someone who just found it randomly but that person sucks because they gave away someone else’s property.
As for everyone else the whole round about snitching stuff and “find a way to get it back” instead of just talking to the dude and the friend that gave it to him… and you because you took the weed and to go behind your bfs back… at least you did try to talk to him first though…
YTA as you clearly need to find a better bunch of friends and get free of all of these as they sound like trouble.
YTA. He’s a cheater and a thief, why would you want to be involved with that?
you highkey have a point
You deserve better.
She’s still gonna stay she already knew that before u pointed it out again….
I’m guessing from the way this post reads that you are young. I’m going to tell you something that I wish I had learned at a younger age. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. If they lie, steal, and cheat….that is all them. Their choices, based on their own moral code. These aren’t things that you can change about them. They are things that the other person controls based on their own decisions. See your worth, and set your own moral code according to who you want to be in this world. Set boundaries, and don’t push them for anyone. It took integrity to return the stolen item, and integrity is priceless. It’s one of the few things in life that no-one can take from you. This stranger is proud of you. You did good!
Info Why didnt your friend just return it to the owner when he found it?
Everyone is the AH…
Friend is giving out free weed for a grinder that could’ve been replaced for the price of the free weed.
Friend that snitched on kobf but did so secretly and putting you in a position to have to lie to someone.
KOBF is a total AH … for cheating and for stealing from a friend (or your friend) and for getting upset that you returned the grinder.
You’re the AH for not calling the kobf out on stealing from a friend and not being up front about returning the grinder to the rightful owner.
Side note…dump the kobf…you sound young and this guy is not doing right by you. Love is not the only thing that holds a relationship together and this kobf has kind of crapped on other important things. Sounds like he might deserve a good smack in the mouth.
ESH, but you sound so young and I sincerely wish for you that you thought enough of yourself that it would be unthinkable for you to chase after a cheating thief. That is awful.
Girl do you have any respect for yourself? This is embarrassing