AITA So a few months back my mom asked me if I wanted some clothes she showed me a Jean jacket keep this in mind the last time I told her I didn’t like some clothes she bought me she snapped and went on a whole rant about how I’m ungrateful and undeserving of anything so I told her yes so like 2 or 3 months pass I haven’t worn the jacket since she bought it I’m coming out of the bathroom she says if you not going to wear that jean jacket give it to me I’m going to return it so a brought it back to her she said "you’re not going to wear this?" I said no I have nothing to wear it with so I go and give it back to her then she goes on another rant about how she won’t buy my any new clothes for a long time and how she won’t keep waisting her money on stuff I don’t like
Ages: Me 13m
Do you ever have opportunities to go shop and pick your own clothes? Are you difficult when asked to do so? I wanna say N T A but I know how 13 year olds can be about shopping
She might just be tired of dealing with it and buying stuff because you need a jacket and won’t tell her what you want.
I get to go shopping for my own clothes but not very often and no I’m not difficult when asked
Not to me you aren’t, though everyone has different opinions. She shouldn’t ask if you like it, she should let you say you want it first & let her see the joy/love first too when you see the clothing item before buying.
NTA. Mom of two teens, girl and boy. There’s a period of time where moms have to transition from knowing/deciding what you like to you choosing what you like. It’s an emotional moment for mom since you are growing up. It’s a struggle for both of you to adjust.
I would suggest you go shopping together so you can show her what you want. Be gentle with any ‘nos” but also be honest. Try not to roll your eyes. Tell her you don’t want to waste her money by saying yes to something you don’t see yourself in. One to two trips should get her on the right path for the kind of clothes you will wear.
Wouldn’t it be better for all concerned if you went clothes shopping together?
Yes
NTA. You can tell your mom that I’m grateful that you gave me a jacket but unfortunately it’s not retmy type. Let her understand that each one of us has preferences in life and maybe next time, she should ask you for a shopping so she’ll have an idea about your tastes in clothes