As nice as I am, I love to gift people things, especially my mother. It was her birthday and I decided to gift her a nice laptop. Today, she told me that while she was sleeping she dropped her laptop on the wooden floor and had shattered it. That really hurt to know that I’ve spent my hard earned money to get that for her just for her to be careless and break it. Now with a devastated heart I’m petrified to gift her anything that is pricey. Crap, what’s even worse is that she said “It’s no big deal it’s just material things,” clearly she doesn’t understand the blood, sweat , and tears I’ve worked to purchase that for her. Come to find out she’s been careless with the laptop all along. Guys am I the Ahole for having an outburst and going off on her being so careless? She’s guilt tripping me and I hate it.
>As nice as I am
Gag me with a spoon I didn’t even get past this. YTA.
You missed out! World record for the use of gift as a verb!!!
Oh, do keep going. “Now with a devastated heart…” PUUUUKE.
You dont get to give people gifts and then dictate how they use and treat those things. Either give freely or don’t give at all.
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YTA. She probably feels terrible about it already and it was an honest mistake. It’s not like she took it and and threw it on the ground.
Do you have a right to be hesitant to buy her pricey gifts now, sure you do. But you can’t gift people things and expect them to hold that item in the same level of reverence that you do. The moment you gift somebody something material you no longer have a stake in what happens to that item. You can be disheartened, but you shouldn’t take it out on her.
You gave it to her, now it’s hers. She broke it, that’s on her, she has to deal with the consequences of no longer having a working laptop. It doesn’t really affect you at this point, the money is already spent. Light YTA.
Your mother has spent way more money on you than you did on a laptop, yet with this attitude you’re clearly more broken than that is. She doesn’t care so neither should you. YTA.
First sentence…YTA.
Light YTA.Yes , you have the right to decide to not give pricey gifts.To have your MOTHER say “ It’s no big deal “ would indeed hurt after you share your hard earned money on a gift .But there is something about the way you describe all of this that comes across rather “ jerky”. I suspect you went on and on razzing her on the accident .
YTA. It’s a gift. What happens after you gift something is irrelevant. It’s not like she broke it on purpose because you gave it to her. Accidents happen. Things break. Chill out.
YTA. she clearly did not mean to break it and I am willing to bet that she is feeling pretty upset about it, without you being condescending about it. She’s your mom and she made a mistake. You should apologize.
YTA with that attitude.
YTA, i notice you didn’t go into much detail on this ‘outburst’ you had
YTA. Gee, If only there was a way to insure against breakage or damage to electronic items /s
I had a wicked stepmonster who would go ballistic when I accidentally broke something. Back then I made the decision that I would love people and use things, not the other way around. Everything will break or wear out eventually. It already feels bad to break an object. Don’t make your mom feel worse for it.