For some context, I (F22) have a lot of teeth trauma in my life. Broken teeth, root canals etc. I‘ve had lots of insecurity about my teeth growing up and I finally had a nice smile that people began to compliment me on.
I just got back from the dentist having 3 metal fillings as they were a quarter of the price compared to white fillings. Obviously they aren’t as aesthetically pleasing so I left in a very bad mood.
My parents are paying hence the cheaper treatment. My mum and I have had a huge argument shouting at one other cause she’s saying I have no right to be so rude to her, that I’m taking the p\*\* out of her. I explained it has nothing to do with her and I’m allowed to feel upset that my teeth look bad. So my question is AITA for having a strop and not wanting to speak to anyone after my appointment. Or is my mum out of order for taking it personally and lashing out at me for my reaction.
YTA, you are 22 if you wanted the white fillings you could of paid to have them. Your parents paid so you should be saying thank you
YTA. You’re 22. That your parents are paying is kind of them. You accept that with grace. If you want white fillings, you discuss that with them in advance or pay for them yourself. Instead of that, you decided to throw an entitled little tantrum. Apologise to your parents.
I’m sorry you had a poor experience. It sucks to have bad teeth.
When you are no longer a chronological adult and you become an actual adult that is paying for your own treatment, you can have the fillings replaced with ones you prefer.
YTA. Though my dentist doesn’t use metal fillings anymore. I’m surprised yours does.
YTA. fair enough you’re upset but lashing out at your parents when they paid is wild. it could’ve been a lot worse if left without any fillings, just make it your goal to save and get your teeth sorted how you’d like
YTA. You’re allowed to feel upset, yes. That doesn’t mean you’re allowed to take that out on other people.
YTA by the sounds of it, you already knew they were only paying for the cheaper metal fillings. If you wanted the white fillings, you should pay for them yourself instead of having a spoiled princess strop at the people paying for your dental treatments! They didn’t have to pay for them as you are an adult. Go apologise to your mom for being a brat.
YTA my guy, they had no obligation to pay for your teeth in the first place. I am sorry you are going through it, but you are in the wrong
YTA – you owe your parents a huge apology for your childish behaviour and a thanks to them for paying.
Depending where in the world you live it may have been a few years now since you could work, drive, drink, marry or have children. Grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your actions!
(PS – being unhappy never gives you the right to treat others like crap)
YTA: You’ve got a support structure that will help pay for your teeth. Yeah you’re allowed to feel whatever you want but that stops once you start taking it out on the people HELPING YOU.
You’re 22, not a toddler.
First, all the aholes below telling you to “just grow up and pay for it yourself” clearly don’t realize how inordinately expensive dental treatments are. It’s just…not something a 22 year old can afford.
Secondly, sorry, but YTA. Metal fillings do the job just as well as the other ones, and they really don’t look bad. It sucks that you’re insecure, and it’s fine to be upset, but taking it out on your parents is wrong.
YTA for having a strop. You’re not the asshole for having a preference; get them redone the way you want when you can afford it.
Well, get a job and pay for the fillings you want
YTA
Being upset? Valid.
Taking your feelings out on those around you? AH move.