For context he is 18 years older than me, and I am his younger sister. He and I have never gotten along, for example when I was younger he would try to play my favorite games with me, and I’d happily agree. However he would get annoyed whenever I would talk too much or laugh too loudly and kick me out of his room or blow up. I grew up to be very cautious of him, so I’d keep my distance or stay quiet unless promoted in conversation or activities. He eventually got married, moved out, and then separated and moved back In. I didn’t talk to him, or really see him the few years he was moved out, and even when he moved back in I was too busy with school applications. Three years ago I asked to borrow his skate board, he told me I didn’t need to ask him, and to go for it. 4 times I used his skate board to skate around our neighborhood. Soon after school started, I became busy again and especially did not use his skate board. Last Summer while I was with our older sister, he began texting her, I am not sure what the conversation was exactly, however she summarized once they stopped texting an hour later. According to her and my parents who were at home with him) he flipped the house to find his skate board yet it was “no where to be seen”, he then began to accuse me of selling or dumping his skate board. He continued this the entire week I was away, until my mom was fed up and started moving the furniture to find it. She found it, and that was it, he did not apologize to anyone. One Saturday, his pc monitor stopped working, he blamed me, said that I “Purposely broke it”. Despite the fact there was no damage on the monitor, and I was not home from 5am-7pm every day, while he was not home from 9am-5pm. I said no and then ignored him, prompting even more outrage. This week, he came home very happy, he tried talking to me, I ignored him. He moved the conversation along with our parents. He left the room and a few minutes later he began slamming doors, saying “where is it.” My mom asked him what was wrong, and how she could help. He goes onto say “My packet is gone, your daughter took my packet”. mom was confused so she asks me what he’s talking about, I reminded her that he does recreational activities and that I have not, and I did NOT take anything from him. He barges into the room to “correct” her, and that he didn’t blame me but rather said “It is highly probable that your daughter took it, and she does it all the time, and that everyone is stupid for not knowing”?? I ignored him again, he got upset again, and he threw another tantrum.
AITA? What should I do?
NTA, he keeps blaming you for things thats not your fault.
Not really an AITA situation?
What’s his current age? He was 18 when you were born and you appear to be late teens. So he’s pushing 40?
Info: Are you sure this person is 18 years older than you because he acts like a 13 year old child?
YTA for not having a single paragraph break in the entire thing. It’s the closest I’ve seen to a wall of text in a while
if you didnt have anything useful to contribute, why comment? i read it just fine.
NTA, how old is he now? Does he have a mental problem? I guess he does, has only been married a few years perhaps he was like this in his marriage too. He clearly needs help. I am afraid he could get abusive at some time
What the hell is even that?
Tell him to shut up and grow up
Why are you yelling (all caps) – we can hear you!
NTA
Sounds like your brother needs psychological help. And it sounds like your parents are enabling/ afraid of him. If I was you I would work on getting out of the house as soon as possible because he sounds very unstable and dangerous.