AITA for interrupting my friend while she was speaking BY LIKE 4 WORDS?
Hi, I (31F) and my bestfriend of 10 years (31F) work at the same place.
As we’re done with our lunch break she asked if she should get the money from a colleague she bought a dress for,
my friend has a track record of buying things for people without taking the money because alot of the times shes too shy about it, so when she said to me should I go get the money for the dress while showing discomfort about it, I enthusiastically told her something along the line of dude ofcourse yes lets go!
Then she said well it was supposed to be a surprise for her mother and she was referring to the fact that she gave it to our colleague infront of her mother, I thought she was feeling bad for nearly ruining the surprise and needed some encouragement (the colleague never indicated that it was a surprise before) and I told her something along the line of "you’re doing her a favor so what!"
So my friend snapped at me for interrupting her and told me that I misunderstood her point while snapping isnt uncommon of her I thought thats the extent of it, a few minutes after she reopened the subject and berated me more to the point that I got teary eyed.
So am I the asshole for interrupting my friend as she was explaining something and I misunderstood her intent?
YTA. Don’t interrupt people when they’re speaking. It doesn’t matter if it’s by 4 words or 40. It’s bad manners.
Also, I would be very surprised if she got that upset out of the blue. I’m guessing this is something you do often. Own it. Fix it.
ESH. You switched the digits on your ages. No way either of you are in your 30s.
Yta she’s right
info: did you apologize for interrupting her? if you did then she shouldn’t have laid into you unless it’s something you do constantly
There is no way you two are in your 30s.
So I don’t believe the ages for a second. 31, interrupting people and then crying when they call you out for it?
Just apologise for interrupting your friend and move on.
YTA I’m going to focus solely on you interrupting.
>my friend snapped at me for interrupting her and told me that I misunderstood her point
I would say E S H for your friend snapping, but I will give her the benefit of the doubt because this may be a habit of yours, or you did it in a particularly annoying manner — it is after all rude to interrupt.
You may think you know where your friend was going with what she was saying, and anticipate that she only had four more words to go that you already could guess, but jumping in with a conclusion before she is actually able to say what she wants to say invites misunderstanding and pulls the rug out from under her in the process. Even if you did get it right (you didn’t) it would have been more considerate to wait until she actually got it out of her mouth before replying. It’s frustrating to play an unintentional quiz game with someone who reflexively finishes your sentences or replies to what they think you were going to say when you haven’t gotten to the meat of what you want to say.
ESH
Are you sure you’re both 31 and not 13?
One of my biggest annoyances is people interrupting others as they talk, and that’s an AH thing to do. Berating someone over it is going too far and is also an AH thing to do.
By 31 do you mean 17? Because honestly, I don’t seen how this escalated so quickly for two 31 year olds. It’s a storm in a teacup.
This is so childish. Interrupting people is rude, so YTA.
You’re not fully listening to her. You’re forming your response as she’s talking. Wait until the last word, then form your response.
YTA. I absolutely hate when people interrupt me like this, it’s something simple that people should be taught as kids. Agree with other commenters who say this whole situation is childish.
YTA
ESH
The comments between the two of you here? Really? Wasting people’s time on a non-issue…