I am on holiday to see my family in my native country. My immediate family bought a new house before we used to share with my moms aunt and her children (my cousins and uncle) now my cousin who’s close in age to me sleeps in my room in the new home. I do think myself to be a very solitary person (not by choice, just had to get used to it) and on top of that I like my privacy.
My mom and other aunt keep saying how my cousin uses my personal items and doesn’t use her own even though we got her stuff like makeup etc. they say bad things about her and tell me not to let her use my stuff. I am slightly territorial over my things but I somewhat don’t care that she uses it.
However I told her to sleep in the other room with other family and I share my room with my mom. My mom tells me how I should be nice to my family yet tells me not to let her use my stuff. I don’t get it I can’t be half nice to someone I go the whole way or be indifferent. But my mom now js kinda guilt tripping me but on the other hand I do agree with the bad habits of my cousin that my mom says as I’ve seen them for myself. I honestly also think it’s petty that I should hide my stuff all the time so AITA?
Edit: by annoying habits I mean that she’d wipe her dirty feet on the bed or open cupboards of the room. Even though when I was a guest at her house I never touched anything or did things like that. So I do agree that it’s disrespectful to an extent to be a guest and do things like that. However I do feel like I need to overcompensate as her family have done a lot for mine
NTA
I too am very territorial about my stuff and barley let my siblings sleep in my room for same blatant disregard for decentcy (my brother will to wipe dirty feet on my bed). so i get it. and you guys even made accomodations for her to sleep somewhere else. its not like you’re excluding her from everything, you just don’t want her in your room. tottally understandable
NTA your cousin needs to learn boundaries