About 2 nights ago I received a call from my neighbour explaining that there are multiple cars outside my house and loud music coming from inside. I immediately asked my neighbour to knock on the door and ask what’s going on. He was told that it was a party, I was on a night out with my girlfriend and was absolute furious as we had previously made it clear, no parties unless I give him permission.
Little backstory, my brother broke up with his girlfriend who he was living with and we gave him a room in my house until he saved up money from his job to find a place. We obviously had some basic rules like he had to clean and help throughout the house
Anyway, I thanked my neighbour for notifying me and instantly went home. When I arrived, the music was still loud and I entered to a dirty house, with glasses every and a bunch of drunk men and women. I immediately found him and shut it all down. Once everybody had cleared out we had a massive argument and I ended up kicking him out at night.
The living room was completely trashed, with one of the glasses shattered all over the floor and spilled alcohol everywhere.
The next day my brother called me and we had another argument, him calling me an ignorant asshole and insulting me. Am I in the asshole for kicking him out in the middle of the night?
Nta. It’s your house. Your valuables. Your things you might struggle to replace… not his.
NTA. He can stay somewhere else. He didn’t respect your home.
NTA, he can trash his own house. No wonder his gf threw him out, he’s an AH.
I feel the answer here is obvious but I understand the need to feel validated in your reaction. NTA, your brother never should have thrown the party and I think the consequences of doing so was pretty fair
Thank you. I just needed an extra opinion on the whole situation.
Is you brother perchance a high school junior instead a grown man who had a live-in girlfriend? Because that’s the age that usually does this nonsense.
Hes 19, so surprisingly he’s an “adult”.
If he’s adult enough to party, he’s adult enough to find his own place.
NTA. Brother doesn’t value your shit, so he shouldn’t want to stay in it. Protect your boundaries and your peace. And your shit!!
NTA consequences of his own actions.
NTA. Congrats to his ex for breaking up with him, though. She dodged a bullet.
I agree, even if he’s my brother.
NTA but change the locks ASAP. Get cameras. He sounds a bit unhinged and may want to retaliate.
NTA
And if he had enough “friends” to have a party, then surely he knows a few people that will be okay having him stay with them at their place, right?