For a little bit of context, I am I minor. I live in a house with my mother, step father, stepsister & brother, and a dog. I share a bathroom with my step sister. The living room is directly connected to the walkway to mine and my step sisters room, and in between mine and my step sisters room is our bathroom. My dog is a few months over a year old, we do not let him out the crate often, but when we do it’s to take him out. Normally any chance I get I let him out to play with him, I feel bad we don’t let him out as much.
Anyway, when we let my dog out, if someone isn’t paying attention, the dog gets into things, like the trash, rooms, plants, etc. and my mom has reminded me multiple times that I need to shut my bathroom door. She’s been reminding my for months at this point, but I genuinely don’t remember. I’ll remember she told me to, I’ll remember it randomly, but when I and leaving the bathroom, I don’t remember. It’s not like I leave it wide open, just I don’t make the door click into place. She gets so annoyed at me, but I genuinely don’t remember. I feel like if she notices it before they let my dog out, they should shut the door, and how is he getting into this stuff if you are supposed to be watching him? The dog has gone into my room so many times and no one has come to get him, I have to lead him out, and when I look into the living room/dining room, my parents are just scrolling on their phone. I feel a little bad, but every time it happens she tells me to come pick up what he got out, normally that is used pads that aren’t mine. I get she doesn’t want to pick them up either but I feel its like less than half my fault for this. I don’t do it on purpose, but she gets so mad at me sometimes.
YTA. Shut the door. If you don’t remember, write it on a note and pin it to the door or something. It can’t be that hard of they’re constantly reminding you. Of you don’t want the dog breaking into your room either, close that door too. Like you said, a dog can’t really get into things if you don’t give them the chance.
YTA for leaving the door open. Your family however shouldn’t have a dog if it has to be crated all the time due to lack of training
This. Being stuck in a crate most of the time is no life for a dog.
ESH. Train your dog. “We don’t let him out often.” Wtf?
YTA
You’ve been reminded for months. Do better.
>My dog is a few months over a year old, we do not let him out the crate often, but when we do it’s to take him out.
ESH give the dog to somebody who will love him. Ya’ll treat him like furniture.
ESH.
I’m sure you manage to close the door when you exit your home. Well, the bathroom door has very similar mechanics – if you don’t remember to close it, it’s because you don’t care enough.
And even then, there are ways to make yourself remember. Like, put a poster on the inside of the door saying “CLOSE ME!!!”
And your parents should re-home that poor animal.
I’m going to say NTA here ONLY because there seems to be a problem far bigger than shutting the door (that is not in your control since you are a minor).
A dog CANNOT be kept in a crate all day and only let out occasionally for the bathroom. That is abuse and that is not acceptable. Yes, not shutting the door after being reminded is annoying and you could consider writing a post it on the door as a reminder or something. But the far bigger issue is the dynamic of your household where a dog is kept in a cage ALL day long. It sounds like neither of the adults have any sort of system in place for a healthy dynamic with the dog.
The dog shouldn’t be crated that much. And you remember to close the door so just do it. I’d be annoyed too if I was your mom
Keeping a dog in the crate that much is animal abuse. Dogs are pack animals and he will never learn to behave better if his pack, your family, doesn’t put in the effort to train him. The entire family is AHs regarding the dog
YTA
The dog is getting pads from your bathroom and bring them out into the common areas of the house?
If they’re used pads from the garbage this is absolutely disgusting, even if they’re clean and unused it’s a choking hazard for the dog.
You’re the reason an unsafe and/or unsanitary condition is occurring.
Absolutely YTA but hopefully your young enough that your behaviour is still your parents’ fault.
Maybe you have ADHD and can get some behavioral therapy to help with the remembering problem.
In the meantime you can buy a simple hinge attachment at a hardware store that will automatically swing the door closed. You might not be strong/tall enough to replace it yourself but it’s not a difficult job for someone with very basic handy skills.
Yeah sorry but YTA. Put a note on the toilet seat or somewhere you see it directly when entering the bathroom.
And your family is TA for getting a dog when nobody wants to put in effort to train the dog and to let it vent its energy. It gets destructive because it’s bored and has cropped up energy of being locked away. Imagine living in a Harry Potter style closet and barely be able to get out of it.
Your dog should be outside of the crate most of the time. Keeping a dog inside a crate for a long time is cruel and abusive.
“We do not let him out the crate often.”
ESH except the poor dog.