I’m a 28M. When I was growing up, my relationship with my dad was really difficult we barely had any connection. He was very strict and emotionally distant. Honestly, I was intimidated and really scared of opening up to him.
From a very Tender age, I loved Music so much that I wanted to become a Music Producer, It was what I had passion for, but my dad didn’t care about that. Instead, he wanted me to work for him because he owns a Pharmacy store and needs me to assist him run the Business, I didn’t feel like I could say No, so I agreed. I ended up working there for 8 years as an Assistant.
During this period of time I wasn’t getting paid, reason was because I was living under his roof, and he also wouldn’t let me move out. I kept hoping that he had some plans for my future but nothing ever changed. Eventually, I reached my Limit and told him I can’t keep working with him and I needed to find my own path. After that, he totally cut me off, he wont even speak to me anymore.
Now I feel guilty and confused at the same time, Part of me still feel like I made a mistake by leaving like that, and another part of me feel like I finally stood up for myself after so many years of dying in silence.
AITA for leaving? please guys I really want to know.
You were financially abused for 8 years, I’d look into taking your dad to tribunal over this. You were working in modern day slavery conditions. You WILL receive a huge payout, and probably bankrupt him… I strongly recommend you do this, he absolutely deserves it.
NTA… Well you are but only to yourself for accepting this situation, but it sounds to me like you didn’t understand how bad and illegal a situation this was.
I wish you the best of luck.
NTA
And you know it
Thank you
NTA
“My dad kept me as a slave for 8 years and then got mad when I left.”
This is your story. If you really think you might be the asshole here, you need serious help.
All he did was manipulate me and make me feel he knows better…
you were definitely slave labor
NTA
You don’t owe it to your dad to live in misery. Follow your own path. Your dad wasn’t appreciative when you worked with him. Why would you go back to that? You deserve to be happy
If he loved you, that’s what he would want for you
NTA. You dad has exploited you for 8 years. 8 years too long . Go live your own life.
NTA if he had a plan for you he was obligated to share it. 8 years is too long. Fly and be free. If you have to work at another Pharmacy do it and use the time to plan.
I’m glad I did flee
NTA go live your own life and become your own person.
NTA. Did you receive any compensation of any kind in those 8 years? Stocks? % of the business? You know there are laws, consult your local job service department. I bet this is illegal to do. This is essentially an indentured servant.