If the total doesn’t give it away, I completely lost it on a friend who says they’re not racist, yet has said the N-word multiple times (he’s Caucasian and he says it’s fine since he has a black cousin). A bit of backstory, I met him (let’s call him K, shall we) back in my seventh grade year, I was new to the school, and left in April due to things I don’t want to disclose, and during the next first summer, things were fine, then I got tired of things and let him go, only to give him another chance, and he ruined it, being homophobic, saying things that made me uncomfortable, and saying the N-word
Was this a violent “losing it” or a verbal “losing it”?
Valid Q
Verbal way of “losing it”
NTA, many of us have lost friendships because of racism and homophobia. It’s time to move on, it’s hard to lose friends.
NTA. You’ll make plenty more friends who aren’t hateful.
or ignorant*
NTA. but why are you friends with an openly racist person? Just stop.
NTA. With the Internet and all the resources readily available to everyone there is absolutely no excuse to be ignorant and there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to be around it and calling it out.
NTA & make it a point to never tolerate that kind of behaviour from anyone.
Yeah, I was desperate for friends back then, so if someone wanted to be friends, I accepted without a second thought
NTA but you will be if you maintain the friendship. People like that deserve consequences. They deserve to be shunned. And he should know exactly what he did to deserve it. Just say “I’m not friends with racist homophobes” and stopped talking to him.
I’ve already ditched him a week ago and blocked him on everything