I (14M) got introduced to this boy that i will call Leo by my bestfriend at the time and i immediately started having a crush on Leo not somthing big just a crush yk and i told my bestfriend bc you know she was the one who introduced him to me (and also im openly gay so leo knew that) so anyway a day after i told her that i have a crush on him i got a sms from leo and when i opend it i as super happy bc the sms said that he had a crush on me !!! so i replied to him by saying that i also had a crush on him… 3mins later i get a sms from him again and the moment i opend the sms my face went pale because it said that he wasnt the one who send that sms it was my BESTFRIEND… so i stared crying and texting him that if we can still be friends cuz i was basically having a panic atack cuz i didnt understan why she would do somthing like that to me…. a day later i went back to school and talked with leo and we both agreed to stay friends but i was still mad at my bestfriend so i acted like nothing happend so i can confront her when we are both alone and so i did confront her i asked her why she did it and she said that she didnt know it was me and that she didnt look at the name dag bc she only had 5 seconds to send the sms and i didnt belive her cuz yk it was a day after i told he that i had a crush on him… so after all of that i asked her boyfriend if he believes her and he said no and he also said that she has been talking bad about me behind my back with her class mates like fuck that shit… so i made a plan if i act like nothing happen she will probably give me some tea about her self and she did she told me somthing big somthing huge she told me that she is trans and so i acted like a saporting bestfriend and i told her that i suport her choice but a day after she told me that i started taling EVERY ONE at our school but the only one that had to hear it was her BOYFRIEND and so i told him everything and then a day later he told me that he broke up with her and also after that her now ex boyfriend asked me why i was friends with her and i told him \[i was never friends with her the only reason i said that was bc my other best friend was 😃\]
What she did is extremely shitty but what you did is extremely dangerous. Never out someone else. You were understandably hurt but that was too much. And your last line? Wtf but not surprising you’re still a child
….the fuck did i just read?
I am not 100% sure, but I think the best friend sent a text from their crushes phone saying they liked them then the person who’s phone it actually was said no. Because they got rejected they responded by waiting till that friend said somthing personal (I’m trans) and then outed them. So OP is the asshole here. I don’t care how old you are, every person on this earth knows that outing someone is the shittiest thing to do. They may not have support and may be in harms way now they are outed before they were ready.
Oh I’m aware of the story, OP is lesbian, had a crush on a guy she just met through best friend, quickly messaged saying as such, best friend replied on his phone saying it was reciprocated, checked with him and he said nar, that was best friend, best friend said they didn’t know it was her, proceeds to blame best friend for guy not liking her in that way, outs them as trans before ready (one of the most disgusting and dangerous things you can do), ruins at least one relationship, reveals didn’t like best friend anyway
You actually read that?
Yes, and I’m not happy about it, and very little made sense
As a former middle school teacher, all I needed to know was you’re 14 and clearly never payed attention in English based on your punctuaGrammer.
Holy shit, after having gpt make it readable, I have determined you may, in fact, be the devil.
For those of you that need punctuation to read:
I (14M) was introduced to this boy—I’ll call him Leo—by my best friend at the time. I immediately started having a crush on Leo. It wasn’t anything huge, just a normal crush. I told my best friend because she was the one who introduced us, and I’m openly gay, so Leo already knew that.
Anyway, the day after I told her about my crush, I got an SMS from Leo. When I opened it, I was super happy because the message said he had a crush on me. I replied and told him that I also had a crush on him.
About three minutes later, I got another SMS from him. The moment I opened it, my face went pale. The message said that he wasn’t the one who sent the first text—it was my best friend. I started crying and texting him, asking if we could still be friends, because I was basically having a panic attack. I didn’t understand why she would do something like that to me.
The next day at school, I talked with Leo, and we both agreed to stay friends. I was still mad at my best friend, though, so I acted like nothing had happened until I could confront her when we were alone. When I did confront her, I asked why she did it. She said she didn’t know it was me and didn’t look at the contact name because she only had five seconds to send the SMS. I didn’t believe her, because it happened the day after I told her I had a crush on him.
After that, I asked her boyfriend if he believed her. He said no, and he also told me that she had been talking badly about me behind my back to her classmates. That really hurt.
I then made a plan: if I acted like nothing had happened, she would probably tell me some “tea” about herself. And she did. She told me something big—something huge. She told me that she is trans. I acted like a supportive best friend and told her I supported her choice.
But the day after she told me, I started telling everyone at our school. The only person who should have known was her boyfriend, so I told him everything. A day later, he told me that he broke up with her. After that, her now ex-boyfriend asked me why I was friends with her, and I told him I was never really friends with her—the only reason I said that was because my other best friend was. 😃
OP also outted a trans person without their permission.
ESH
Let this be a lesson to you…. You don’t tell someone you have feelings for their bf/gf. Also, I can’t believe you’re actually asking us if outting someone is okay…. Obviously it’s not okay. It’s just about the worst thing you can do to someone.
YTA what she did was being a shitty 14 year old
What you did might just ruin her life, you have no idea what people might do to her
You were so much worse and the smiley face is kinda fucked up
YTA. Outing a trans person is not just profoundly shitty interpersonally — way more than sending a text falsely implying a crush was reciprocated — but could be life threatening in our transphobic society.
You need to apologize to your former best friend. And a real apology. Something that includes a genuine acknowledgement of what you did wrong and why it’s wrong, as well as a commitment to listen to their needs going forward, and a promise to work to undo the harm you caused (if they think there’s something you can do that could help).
Also, write in sentences and paragraphs.
1. Your grammar is horrible, please fix that. Paragraphs. They are good.
2. This is some High School Drama BS. It is dumb. This is the sort of thing we hopefully grow out of and recognize and just… Not Needed. And if we don’t, we are generally recognized as Trash People. Don’t do this sort of thing. Grow out of this sort of thing.
3. You outed a trans person. There’s NO way that’s ever acceptable. There is NO justification that’s enough. You’re gay. YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER. 20 years ago, being outed as gay might have gotten the shit kicked out of someone. 50 years ago, it might have gotten them killed. YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER.
YTA, for sure. Absolutely, no question.
YTA. She’s bad but you were sooooo much worse. And you seem proud of it, and that’s truly sick