So bit of a long story in terms of timeline. About sixish years ago I posted what I thought was a motivational post for myself that referenced, not named but referenced, my family asking me why I chose the career path I did. I didn’t name anyone specifically at all. About a day after it was posted, I come home from work (was still living with my parents at the time) to find all hell has broken loose because both my brother and sister took offence to the post, and after a lecture from my parents, I had to apologise to both B and S, despite not even referencing either.
Fast forward to tonight, my sister posts in our family group chat that she’s cleaning out her photos and decides to send a screenshot of the post itself (I reluctantly deleted it before the apologies). Naturally, I question why she shared it, her response was it was nice. After reminding her what happened when I posted it originally, she replied questioning why she can’t find it nice in retrospect before deleting it and just saying “never mind”.
Am I the asshole for being mad and making her delete it?
You’re NTA. If your family was that reactive at the time, they should have been questioning their own behavior that motivated you to post it in the first place.
Your sister seems like she’s trying to poke the bear now. Seems pretty weird to bring it up 6 years later.
What had been a drama years ago can become a fun story. I get your sister point. NTA because this is a personnal information mostly about you and you are in your right to want it deleted.
You sound like a constant victim. Fix your mindset and this garbage won’t affect your day.
Your family sounds way too far up each other’s business.
NAH/ESH
My take on this is that sister is either
A: Trying to stir up shit and bring up bad memories in a passive aggressive way, and then denying that’s what she’s doing, or
B: in hindsight proud of you and feels a bit bad for having doubted you.
You’ll probably get some people with very definite opinions, but I just really don’t think there’s enough information in the story to make a confident judgment one way or the other.
Nta photo has a toxic meaning