I 30F have been married to my husband David 30M for over five years. We met through work after he moved to my city. His mother disliked our relationship and spread a rumor that David cheated on his ex Rosie 26F with me.
They were broken up long before I met him, which I could prove.
Early in my relationship, Rosie kept contacting David and wouldn’t disengage. After my pregnancy announcement, contact suddenly stopped.
Years earlier, Rosie had moved into David’s flat and refused to leave for some time. After they split, she placed her belongings into a storage unit David paid for and delayed removing them for years.
During our marriage, I discovered Rosie still contacting David and using the storage unit as leverage. David eventually removed his belongings and handed the unit over.
After David’s mother repeated the cheating rumor, I messaged Rosie directly to clear it. She denied it.
Rosie then added me on social media and admitted she had been following my account for years. She began copying my photos and messaging me about my husband in uncomfortable ways.
She claimed she needed the storage unit key and said this was why she befriended me. I helped, but she continued making accusations until I showed proof everything had already been handed over. She finally emptied the unit.
Later, David noticed she was wearing his missing T-shirt. I messaged her assuming it was accidental. She admitted she took it on purpose and told me I was being possessive because she “had him first.”
She later asked David for money using her father as emotional leverage. When David didn’t respond, she messaged me claiming David owed her money. I didn’t reply. She unfriended me and I blocked her.
About a year later, her boyfriend contacted another woman and somehow knew private details about my life despite never meeting us. He said Rosie constantly compared him to my husband and made inappropriate comments about me. When Rosie found out, they both blamed me, claiming I had orchestrated a revenge plot over the T-shirt.
My husband sent Rosie a final message setting boundaries. She blocked us, but continues attempting to view our profiles through alternate accounts.
AITA for messaging her initially to clear the rumor and later about the T-shirt, or should I have stayed silent?
A lot of this is odd. Did David ever block Rosie? Or did he just ignore her messages for however long it took until you got pregnant? Why did it take until you were married for David to take his things out and hand it over? And when you say you discovered Rosie still contacting David, was this before or after your pregnancy? How did you discover it-did David tell you? And why were you the one who needed to show her proof that the storage unit was handed over?
What’s this about her bf contacting another woman? What other woman and why is this relevant?
David never blocked Rosie because of the arrangement to pay for the storage unit. Rosie was paranoid about standing orders. David and I got married on our one year anniversary. He lived with his mother in his hometown prior to moving to the city, so he never emptied it. When he moved to the city lockdown for the COVID pandemic had happened so he wasn’t able to go back to his hometown until AFTER our child was born.
I discovered her messaging him whilst I was pregnant as I was on his phone ordering some pregnancy bits. After he had handed it over once the lockdown lifted, he handed it over and then blocked her. When I’d messaged her and she had asked for details about the unit a whole year after it being handed over, David didn’t want to message her. Her bf talking to this over woman, he had told this other woman about this whole situation and once Rosie caught him he claimed it was me who somehow set him up.
NTA for trying but both of you should keep your distance now.