I live in india and there”s a lot of stigma around moving out of your parents house here esp if its not necessary for work or studying. i live in the same city as my parents but in a seperate house since my dad was extremely abusive and coming home to fights every single day was extremely draining. i dont take a single rupee from them and live on my own and study and work. i’ve never felt this calm before but the guilt of abandoning them is really clinging on to me. i still check up on them regularly but staying with them is extremely suffocating. i told them the day i signed the lease and when i had to move the next day. i cried a lot too. but my dad keeps behaving like a victim everytime and i feel like the villan for protecting my peace. they didnt let me study in peace there cause of constant chaos. i had to figure someway out or another. my relatives however feel like im doing something sus here which is so annoying cause i literally dont have the time to drink or smoke either. ironically i used to smoke a lot more when i lived w my parents (obv not inside the house cause my parents are extremely conservative that way) but once i moved i have barely touched a cigg and i can feel my body becoming healthier.
Edit: to further clairify, i wasnt the perfect daughter either, i have fought back as well and eventually got tired of the fighting. i feel guilty cause my dad is now 55, (im 22f) and i want him to retire as well. he mustve been conditioned to behave the way he does and lashing out was normalised when he was growing up. life wasnt easy for him and he has been through a lot. but his misogyny sometimes takes over, he hasnt let my mom work either and she has to nitpick for every purchase now plus clean up after him and that is her life. she hates it too and shes always welcome to come here and live with me but she doesnt want to. im more than willing to help out financially but being physically present there was extremely draining