Hi, this is a situation that I’m in need of some advice on. I (17) female, have a best friend, also 17 female, we have been friends off and on since we were 6 years old. Recently I moved back to my hometown after living in the city for two years so that I could graduate with my friends. My friend and I were great over the summer and even at the beginning of school, but then I noticed that she was becoming really distant with me, not inviting me out, being dry, Etc. we spoke about it once and she said it was because when my social battery gets low it ruins the mood, and that she just forgets to invite me. I was upset about that but I said I’d work on it so I could be better to be around. After that we were fine for about a week until she started doing the same thing, she’d hang out without me and not tell me about any plans, only offer to Hang out when she needed something. Recently we had been talking about grad partners and I said I was thinking about going with a mutual friend, she encouraged me to ask him but before I had a chance she told me that he somehow found out and told her he didn’t want to go with me. I later asked him about it and he said that conversation never happened. Another thing is, she gets weirdly upset if I hang out with my other friends, even if she isn’t hanging out with me. So my question is, Am I the a hole for not wanting to hang out with her anymore?
You are not the asshole your friend is being a very bad friend. Lying about something someone said. Get rid of her.
NTA She is playing games with your relationships. You are still young and the damage is repairable, so talking about it is still an option, but you are not required to spend time with someone who treats you poorly.
NTA. Y’all have grown apart and you sound more mature than she is.
>she told me that he somehow found out and told her he didn’t want to go with me. I later asked him about it and he said that conversation never happened
This by itself would be enough for me to no longer consider her my friend. Really, if you stopped having anything to do with her, would you actually be losing anything of value?
NTA
Your “friend” isn’t a friend. Time for you to move on.
NTA. Sometimes friendships burn out. She sounds cunning! It sucks, but it’s time to look after your peace and find new friends. My ex-best friend did this to me, and we were in our late 20s. I haven’t spoken to her since.