My husband and I have 2 kids, M9 and F4.
My husband works full time and I work part time.
His mom is staying with us for a few days.
Yesterday we both went to work. I got home at 6pm. When I arrived dinner was ready. After dinner he washed the dishes and cleaned the house while I put our daughter to sleep. Afterwards he went to help our son study while I got some rest.
My MIL didn’t look happy and called me lazy saying I should be doing more around the house considering I only work part time.
She went on a rant saying her poor son has to do everything because he married a spoiled girl.
I don’t think this is fair.
My husband likes his sleep very much and has a demanding job. We have 2 kids and I have NEVER let him do night duties. He never woke up to feed a baby or change a diaper. Our daughter has nightmares and wakes up during night and I never let her wake my husband. I make breakfast and pack his lunch. I even do laundry and choose and prepare his clothes for him so he can sleep more. I help our son get ready for school every morning.
I feel like I’m doing my share and my MIL is judging me too harshly.
Yes I do love to rest in the evening. I love to come home and not have to cook or clean. Does that make me an asshole?
NTA – If you guys have a system that works for you and everyone (that matters) is happy with it, then she can kick rocks.
NTA
Politely remind your MIL that she doesn’t share a bed with your husband, you do. As such, this is between a husband and a wife on how they want to split household duties.
NTA. You and your husband seem to have worked out the division of tasks, and it’s not for her to say anything about that.
She shouldn’t be staying in your house and calling you names.
INFO : are you certain your husband is okay with the division of labor?
That you both are okay with things is the only thing that matters. But check in with him to make sure he’s still good.