Hi, I read the rules of this group and I hope this post falls in the guidelines. My brother suggested I post here so here’s the situation.
I’m getting married later this year, and we’re just now sending out invitations and letting people know. So my uncle was previously married to my ex-aunt for around 20 years. Early last year we were informed that they were divorcing. She took it upon herself to let us all know that it was because he was having an affair, which honestly, fair. My brother and I were very close to them. We used to live very close by until we moved, she’s a really career-oriented strong woman, always encouraged me and I really like her. I’m close to my uncle too who’s always been kind and treated me like a daughter. They couldn’t have kids of their own so they really treated us like their own. So it was really upsetting that she was no longer a part of our family. My uncle is dating the woman he had an affair with now.
I really thought about this and decided I would want her at my wedding even if we just kept them separate and they promised to not create a scene. So I spoke to her and told her about the wedding date and that I’ll be sending her the invite, confirming her address and everything. She was really happy, gave me her blessings. Then she expressed her surprise that my dad wasn’t creating a fuss about me not inviting my uncle. I felt super uncomfortable but told her the truth, that my uncle would be there. She rehashed all that had happened, the affair, and I said I get all that, but my uncle is still family. And that it would mean a lot to me if she could come. She made some admittedly good points about how humiliating it would be for her, but also that she can’t imagine missing my wedding, and she really hoped I’d do the right thing.
AITA if I don’t exclude my uncle? What he did was wrong but at the end of the day he is an uncle who has always been caring and loving when it comes to me. And is family. We haven’t seen my aunt since their divorce but naturally have seen my uncle (and his partner) at Thanksgiving and Christmas. AITA?