I(28M) love cuddling with my fiancee(27F) before going to bed. Usually, this includes a half an hour of casual conversation and scrolling Reddit.
For unknown reasons, her eyes always get watery, similar to allergic ones. However, she likes to get her face close to my nose tip and use it to wipe her tear from the edge of her eye.
Naturally, I don’t enjoy this and get into an argument with her. Recently, she actually teared up saying I was being unfair and not love her.
For the love of God, someone tell me if AITA and being too harsh on her. Thank you
NTA. You’re allowed to find bodily fluids being wiped on you gross and still love her
Yeah, honey I’m done in the bathroom. Come lick me clean please. But if you love me you’ll do it.
Love is not a tool to be weaponised. NTA.
NTA. Personally, I think that’s a bit gross. Nothing quite like the mixture of snot and tears to show true love. On the other hand, if that’s all she needs you to do to prove your love for her, take a ride on easy street. Just make sure to leave a trail of snot.
Ew. That’s weird. I would hate that too. She needs to stop.
NTA. Yuck! She doesn’t get it. To me, it would be like putting her snot on your face. But, I’m petty. If my husband did it, I would probably lick, very wet licks, all over his face to give him the idea of how yucky it is. Seriously, who wants your tears or snotty fluids on their face?
Hahaha! Yeah, I’d be petty like that too. Do something I really don’t like, I tell you how much I don’t like it MULTIPLE times and you STILL do it?! Prepare for me to do something that I know you’ll dislike even more. 😂
NTA
You have had this discussion with her multiple times, told her how gross or uncomfortable it made you and yet still she does it. Is there a reason she thinks your boundary is not important? Its really not cute. Start bringing a box of tissues to bed and throw some at her next time to she tries.
Fiancee? Look forward to forty more years of this.
Where do men keep finding women with weird ‘if you loved me you would accept my grossness’ from? That’s such an odd thing to subject someone to. If she doesn’t knock off her ridiculousness, I recommend you look for a more mature women to spend your time with. Life is short; enjoy it as much as you can. nta
NTA Make sure she has a tissue handy to wipe her eyes every single night.
NTA. I would find it adorable, but that’s just me. You are allowed to set you boundaries.