I recently got my licence and a nice little sports car and I let my friend use it from time to time. Yesterday he asked me if he could use it to do some deliveries for his shift, i agreed under the assumption he would be at the location right around the corner from his house (he had told me the previous week that he was going to be there permanently now). This morning he texted me asking that he was going to be at the other location 20 minutes away and i told him there was no way i was letting him take my car out there with 25+ cm of snow. He is now telling me i have been “constantly doing this recently” and that i have been “making plans then backing out last second”. For reference this is the only time i have done this and its because i expressly told him i didn’t want my car going over there. He is now trying to tell me that im ruining his gym progress as well because i skipped two days this week because of being sore. My attempts to explain to him i dont think this is my fault have all just resulted im him accusing me of trying to start an argument and that “hes just trying to say how he feels”
NTA – dont let people drive your car that arent on the insurance.
You’re about to learn an expensive lesson about loaning cars if you keep this up…don’t let people borrow your car. NTA…and it’s time for your friend to get a car themselves.
Nooooo. This dude is wanting to use your car more and more for work purposes. This isn’t going to stop on its own anytime soon if he doesn’t have his own wheels. He’s not insured on your car and you may be putting your insurance coverage at risk if you continued letting him use your car.
He needs to sort out a solution that doesn’t involve you.
Why are you letting him use your car for his work. Your insurance will probably be revoked if he has an accident in it. What will you do then because he sure as hell won’t pay for the damage, do not let him use it anymore. If he wants a car for work he can buy one if he can’t afford one then tough not your problem.
NTA. He is planning to take advantage of your kindness when it comes to your car. He’s trying to make you the bad guy by saying you’re doing this and that, and it’s uncool. I think you need to tell him that you’re fully rescinding his car use and your friendship. This is not the type of person you should want to be friends with.
Make it easy, never let him use your car again. Nta, unless you continue to loan your car out.
He can get his gym progress by jogging to and from wherever he wants to take your car
NTA. Is he listed on your insurance? Stop letting others use your car. It’s you that is responsible. Do you want to have to save for a new car and insane insurance premiums? Because loaning out your car to anyone (much less an entitled ass) is how you make that happen.
NTA. I don’t understand people that lend their cars to people that aren’t on their insurance. I wouldn’t hand $20,000 to a friend to hold for a bit, knowing that it could vaporize in an accident.
I assume taxis, rideshares and car rentals exist where you live. You aren’t a car rental company with infinite resources. Stop lending him your car, especially after the latest tantrum.
NTA. You know how expensive this will be if your friend gets into an accident and isn’t insured for your vehicle? No matter good of a driver he is, anything can happen on the road, especially when his job revolves around constantly driving. I get that you’re trying to help him out, but this is a big liability. I’d stop giving him the car if I were you.
NTA, this so-called friend is trying to manipulate and take advantage of you, don’t fall for it.
NTA. You shouldn’t have allowed him to use it in the first place. If anything happens, insurance won’t cover it, and I doubt he’d pay for any damages if he’s trying to manipulate you by bringing up other nonsense.
Not only is letting someone use your car likely a violation of your insurance, using it for a commercial purpose (deliveries) probably is too.
Everything you’ve shown us indicates that this person is using you for their own benefit, and gaslighting you when you don’t toe the line.
NTA. Reconsider what this person brings into your life.
NTA. Your friend is mad because you aren’t allowing him to take advantage of you.
I’d stop loaning my car out period, if I were you. You are assuming ALL the risk for their driving.