Hello everyone!
Last Saturday flowers were delivered to my apartment. I noticed them as my partner and I were leaving the house for a busy date night. I saw that the name was clearly for the woman who used to live here, and that they were for her bday from her mom. I felt bad, but didn’t really know what to do with them at the moment. So I just brought them inside, despite feeling like I just took responsibility for a ticking bomb. A neighbor has reached out on her behalf in the past for a package in the past, so I decided to just wait for the inevitable message that she or someone else would like to pick them up.
When she first texted, she was nice, and I wanted to meet her. I was happy to have her number. We agree that I’ll leave the flowers and her card on my doorstep and the mailbox. The next day she starts to become accusatory when I don’t answer her messages right away.
For a little context, I sent the picture on my way to work, and you can see the blue card in the mailbox. I don’t look at my phone very often while at work, bc I am busy.
AITA for not calling the flower company? I don’t really send or receive flowers, and just didn’t think to.
No, you’re not the bad guy, you’re just the unlucky mailroom for someone else’s drama bouquet.
She got pressed because you didn’t text back instantly, like you’re supposed to drop your whole life for her mom’s carnations.
Next time, tell her to take several seats and maybe update her delivery info before coming at you sideways.
Thanks. I was going to post the screenshots, but it looks like you can’t do that in this sub
NTA – You approached this with the best intention. The recipient chose to be rude & lacked insight your assistance was a favor.
Next time contact the florist ASAP. Ask when they will pick up the order & make the arrangement agreeable to you such as leave outside your door (or at the apartment concierge), etc. Request the florist office update the person who ordered the delivery. The florist should not request you work directly with the recipient. Refuse to do so given they were rude to you in a past delivery encounter.
NTA. Sounds like you were cooperative in handing them over to her and she got mad for no reason.
NTA but how often is this happening? She needs to update her mailing addresses; sure some people are going to forget or auto fill in addresses but this shouldn’t be a massively recurring issue…
Her mother doesn’t know where her daughter lives?
If they are estranged, why does she want the flowers?!? 🤔
And how did whichever one texted OP know OP’s number? 🤔
She must have contacted the property manager who had my number.
Oooh, that’s not okay
Property manager should’ve passed her number to you, not yours to her. It’s a great way for a stalker to get your personal info and very not okay!
If you told her the flowers and card were on the doorstep/mailbox, why did she need to keep texting you? I would take those flowers and put them right out on the sidewalk. Not your responsibility. NTA.
How does her mom not know she moved? NTA
And her grandparents, who sent the card. It’s been almost a year.
NTA. Society expects everyone to be tied to their phones 24/7 and it’s just not possible (let alone healthy) for most people.