So I recently had to cut someone off that used to be my friend in active addiction. He lended me a room when I was quitting a certain substance. But he was using a different substance at the time, which I quickly picked up to fill the void. This affected my sobriety and personal life, so we both decided to part ways.
I blocked him on my main #, but I forgot I gave him my Google Voice number which I had planned to use for business. He would text, and I sometimes replied, few and far between because I just ended up not using the number as intended. (Mostly for signing up for things)
Well, apparently last weekend he said he was going to the ER and probably having surgery done. He called me a dick for not answering, but then demanded I bring him to, and pick him up from the hospital because he wasn’t allowed to be released into his own care.
Well I didn’t see his text until like a day after the procedure, but I still didn’t answer, because I still feel the need to separate myself for the sake of my recovery. I just received a text with a photo of his ER tag saying “Now that Im feeling better. WTF bro…I mean for real?” I know that hospitals can’t detain you and you just have to sign something to leave.
Btw, He watched me leave his apartment in full blown withdrawal, didn’t offer to drive me to treatment. I almost crashed my car getting myself there.
Am I the asshole??
You owe that person nothing. You got yourself sober and well done to you! That chapter of your life is shut
Ok cool. Idk why I was second guessing. Like I was really almost feeling bad and thinking “maybe I do owe him a little…”
And thank you! I’m trying my best!
You cut this person off for a reason bc it effected you getting sober and that wasnt healthy. You have moved on from that and dont need that part of your life re introduced again bc trust me I know myself. Old habits can easily be broken
NTA. Sometimes we have to change our people, places and things for our recovery. He would drag you down faster than you could lift him up. In the beginning of recovery, your priority is your recovery. Period.
NTA stay away from him.
NTA. Block him everywhere (after saying sorry and thank you for the time together?), he’s not good for you and you can choose who you want in your life.