So me F (18) (me and a bunch of seniors in highschool) ina group with other stoner girls, or I guess smoker whatever you what to call them. Im honestly just a wallflower to their stuff that they do at lunch. I do ask to hit a vape here or there. Im usually to myself. On this day female A in the group asked me if I had anything, was I told her nah, she just laughed and said get outta my face. As if she did not just ask me the question. Im not really one of those students to be high as a kite at school, so move onto lunch female A asking me when imma get a pen cause I apparently said i was gonna get one. Which I js tell her when I get it. I didn’t understand why’d she kept saying knowing like, she doesn’t talk to me.
So the whole vibe is just weird and hostile. Ive even had my best friend like act like she had a problem with me so she could see if they honestly just didn’t like me around. Found out THEY DONT. mind you the kinda of ringleader of the group would ask me to join them a lot.
Things just kept getting weirder, after ive actually got my weed pen i js left them alone, cause you’re not gonna pressure me into giving you something thats mine because you want it or like im in debt to the group cause you shared with me your unicorn fart vapes.
Now they honestly all wanna fight and arguing with me cause I’m not sharing my pen due to the attitude, and how some of them think of me. Mind you they also were so mad that they felt like fighting me over it???? **So Am i the asshole for not sharing the za?? edit cs apparently it’s needed for the past school semester these people in the group would ask me n I’ll share without second thoughts, up til the start of this year where they all had started acting like this when for only a week in a half i didnt have anything, if found out they were talking about me behind my back. Therefore thats why im acting the way I am.)**
YTA – it’s poor stoner etiquette to mooch off others if you refuse to share your own. It’s bad manners in general, actually.
This wasnt included cause I felt I didn’t need too, ive always had my own stuff and i was pretty generous, til my phone is getting texts back to back to meet up places or even getting cut off in convos for them to get a hit and for me not to be returned with anything.
you should make an edit to include this at the bottom of your post, otherwise you’re likely going to get a bunch of comments calling you out for taking & not sharing when that isn’t the case at all.
after reading this my vote is NTA, you *were* sharing with them until they became entitled. it almost sounds like maybe they were only inviting you to hang out with them because you had weed. once you no longer had anything to share they started being rude towards you and eventually had the audacity to approach and tell/ask you when you would get a pen.
it doesn’t sound like these people are truly your friends… they don’t sound like the smartest bunch either if they’re ready to throw hands and risk injury/charges over a pen. you’re all 18 so everyone should have a part time job by now and should be able to buy their own damn pen. my rule is if you can’t buy your own shit then you can’t do mine. i’ll gladly share with a friend but i’m not sharing with a broke friend that’s always broke. maybe that sounds mean or whatever but i’ve learnt that often times they will stop appreciating it and start expecting it. i don’t want to be picking up and having to plan to buy extra for so and so… i’m not their parents or their lover lmao.
you sent your close friend to investigate and found out that they don’t even actually like you. they turned passive aggressive/mean once you were no longer supplying them with a free pen. the few puffs you took of their vapes don’t mean you’re indebted for life and even if you were indebted it’s clear you’ve more thn paid it off by steadily supplying them with your own stuff until the point of exhaustion. they’re clearly not your friends but on the bright side they’re also not your problem. maybe this feels like a big issue right now but you’ll have graduated soon and you’ll have a million more opportunities to meet friends. don’t waste the little time you’ve got left in highschool on fake ppl, focus on the people you know are really in your corner. my advice is to leave this and them alone… and don’t give them your pen again either lol.
OKAY THIS IS EXACTLY IT and yes ive made that edit, that’s exactly how it is, I have my own job they don’t they just get theirs from their mommas or fathers and hide the fact they have weed so they could tap the pen or whine about how they didnt get high today. This is exactly my point, situation and everything thank you
yeah they’re a bunch of users (no pun intended, i mens the people kind of user and not the substance kind lmao.) if they want a constant supply of weed they should get a job and buy their own. if they’re not willing to do that then idk maybe start doing more dishes and asking for chore money but i think that sounds ridiculous because at 18 everyone should have a part time job… they should *want* a part time job so that they can have their own money/freedom. it’s different for people who have daddies money but they clearly don’t because if they did they wouldn’t be begging you for a puff of your pen.
try not to take their attitude personally, they’re probs always miserable because they’re withdrawing from weed/nicotine. one of the first symptoms listed of withdrawal is irritability… that’s why they’re ready to fight over a pen that isn’t even theirs😭😭
i know it’s cheesy to say but that quote about how you become a reflection of the people you hang out with is very true, so you’re probably better off without them anyways because they don’t seem to be a very motivated or ambitious bunch. keep your job, keep your grades up, keep good people around you and keep doing what makes you happy. if that’s a little bit of weed then that’s fine, just don’t let it get to where it’s taking over your life/decisions/friendships:)
EAH. Your friends are rude. Bring your own weed.
Ive brought my own since ive been there, they all got pissed with me when I was dry for a week n a half started acting like this. As if me hitting a one vape, lets a group of people hit my weed over n over again.
everybody sucks. can’t not share when they’ve shared their shit with you, so maybe stop hanging with them if they genuinely start shit over it
That was already done, and now they’re deadass trying to fight because ive been “holding out” .
jus tell them you’re seriously not looking for any drama. if you really want to get them off ur back, pay them back. but tell them you don’t want to owe em in the future.
NTA, sounds like it’s time to get a new friend group.