So my one year is coming up with my girlfriend and I am taking her out to a nice dinner andsnowboarding(I’m paying for all of this) and I just had a conversation with her and she’s saying that she still expects a gift. I thought that was enough but apparently not. Keep in mind I work as much as I can while being a full time college student so it can get a bit tight on money.
What kind of gift? Maybe a card and a small token but nothing expensive. Is she is expecting jewelry and large gifts, maybe this isnt the one.
Her gift is the dinner and snowboarding??? My man could take me out to Taco Bell and I’d be pretty fuckin happy 😂
NTA, the snowboarding and dinner is the gift.
is she hinting that she expects something expensive or just a gift that’s like “it’s the thought that counts”? if it’s the latter, i suppose you make her a little basket with chocolate, a stuffed animal, some cheaper lotions from somewhere.
If she isn’t into snowboarding, then she might expect something that’s special for her. This is the best time to know her likes and dislikes and even convey yours. And dinner sounds like a nice thing, unless you eat out regularly.
NTA. To me snow boarding is the gift. Unless you are the one who enjoys snowboarding.
I think this needs more context – the trip is the gift if she loves snowboarding, especially if she loves it more than you. The trip is not the gift if you love snowboarding and she’s more along for the ride. Then you’re just doing it all for yourself and she deserves an even nicer gift for doing something on your anniversary that she’s not that into.
NTA. Write her a thoughtful message in a card. The dinner and snowboarding is a gift. If she insists, ask her why these things aren’t good enough for her. Is she going to get you anything? Your values may not align
Is she getting you a gift? Either way, dinner and snowboarding is a gift, and the fact she told you she still expects a present, well, I think she may have dropped these 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Umm you’re treating her to dinner!? And snowboarding. Like I think you need to treat your partner right but she just sounds greedy. NTA
If she is a sentimental person, she might value things she can see and touch over experiences. I would buy a photo frame and put a note on it that reads: “reserved for couple selfie from snowboarding trip.” If this doesn’t make her happy, y’all might not be compatible. Good luck, op.
INFO:
Have you asked what exactly she means by gift?
A trip can be a gift. But, some people can expect something personal but small besides that like a card and flowers.
Like, I treated my relative to a play for her birthday. But, I also got her a personalized birthday card.
NTA – experiences ARE gifts. My late FIL used to take my husband and I out for a really nice dinner every year in lieu of a Christmas present. It was something we really looked forward too because we had everything we needed and generally didn’t spend money on dining out.
I think your gift sounds lovely as long as she likes the restaurant and enjoys snowboarding.
nta. but you can ask her if she wants you to cancel the plans to buy the gift instead