ok so im 15M, ive always been kinda akward whatever, i spent all night playing vr (bad decision obv) and in the morning, i got around 30 minutes of sleep as i went to bed at like 7:30. my aunt walks in MY room with both her dogs and tells me get ready for skiing. now obviously im annoyed, tired and not feeling good because of the vr decision so i tell her "im not feeling good" and she says "i dont care we are going" now obviously i instantly stand my ground because im capable of making my own decisions, after back and forth of this i end up locking myself in my bathroom as shes been very annoying about this. she has two 10 year olds that i would have been babysitting the whole time one of them having mild autism making him a lot harder to deal with for a 15 year old with no child care skills. in the end she told me i was a "shit person" and i ruined a day even though i tried multiple times to get them to go themselves. AITA? btw- my mom was literally defending me on my decision and my aunt is still pushing so..
If this was pre planned then YTA as you knew your family was going skiing and stayed up all night on VR, if not planned NTA as it’s down time over Christmas for everyone
INFO: you mention “canceling so late,” does this mean you had agreed to go skiing before you stayed up playing vr? Or you had no plans for the day and your aunt randomly demanded you do this?
NTA. Unfortunate that your aunt is trying to use you as free childcare. She COULD have told you in advance, but wanted to catch you by surprise.
As a lifelong KS resident, who goes *SKIING** in KS? Sledding, yes. Holding on to a scrap of cardboard for dear life down a hill, yes, we’ve all done this. Tire rolling maybe for the adventurous kid who missed the snow.
No one goes skiing in this state. Maybe there is a single ski option waaay out in Western KS on Mt. Sunflower 🌻 (and I’m assuming that’d be a joke to anyone who does real skiing.)
However, the fact that she decided not to go do the “fun” thing with her own kids (who barely outnumber her, based on info given) makes me think you’re a convenient babysitter more than a valued participant. (Sorry) but you’re definitely NTA
It’s not even cold in Kansas right now! But I do think there’s some artificial snow outside of KC.
Driving to Colorado, maybe?
You have some growing up to do.
You were acting like a teenaged dick
YTA
You’re 15. You’re not capable of making your own decisions.
YTA. I read the other comments where you said you had the previously agreed to go skiing with your aunt, however, didn’t feel well enough to that morning because you stayed up literally all night playing VR.
You would not be the asshole if you had not made plans and a verbal agreement beforehand and she just showed up to your house expecting you to do this. But that is not the case.
INFO, did you give any promises?
Yta. You assumed after the fact that you’d have to babysit. I’m assuming it was driving to Missouri to go skiing?? It’s not like the skiing there is so difficult that you would actually need to babysit anyone. It was a planned family trip far enough away that the family needed to be involved. You were asked, you agreed.
Then YOU chose to stay up all night playing video games. You just proved to your family and the world that at 15 YOU ARE NOT CAPABLE OF MAKING YOUR OWN DECISIONS! Since you think you are, then you deserve the suffer the consequences of your bad choices. If you’re so tired to can sleep in the car!!
It’s time to stop being a whiny AH. You’re a member of the family, you consented, it’s clear you’re not mature enough to be left behind during a big family event, you made a CHOICE to ruin it for everyone including yourself, you don’t deserve any sympathy for staying up all night gaming and going back on your word, the family INCLUDED YOU in the original decision…. All this makes you an AH.
Is your aunt visiting y’all or are y’all visiting her?