Ok so for starters, I’ve lived with him for 5 years and just finally got my own apartment. It was cool living with him sometimes and we had some good conversations but he was also kind of irresponsible while I lived with him. 3 separate times he almost got us evicted which left a lot of stress for me because while I paid late sometimes, I never had gotten to the point of being behind to where eviction notices showed up on our door. He also only works 1 part time job. He has never had a full time job since I lived with him. I know the economy is bad but I’ve never had trouble getting 2 jobs or even having a full time job. Also, I feel like he has kind of taken advantage of me at some points while living with him. Like him sleeping in the living room on a couch that we both paid money for, or him keeping some of his things like video games, shoes, and socks in their. It seemed like he had 2 rooms for a while.
NTA — 1 time almost getting evicted is enough to consider kicking him out 3 strikes is for baseball not livelyhoods
NTA. Regardless of everything else, you are not your brother’s keeper. The fact he is not working full time and potentially getting you evicted in the past just adds to the reasons you should not live with him.
He can work more, he can find another roommate. He will probably guilt trip you severely, but he is a grown adult who can figure out things himself.
NTA. Him sleeping on the couch doesn’t sound like a reason to move out without him, but him almost getting you evicted is. If he’s not pulling his weight and if you keep trying to keep him afloat, you will eventually sink with him.
Your brother is not your child, you’re not responsible for him. He’s an adult, he is responsible for his life.
NTA. You are allowed to go off and live on your own regardless of the reasons you listed. You don’t owe living with him forever.
NTA.
Why would kicking him out leave him homeless? It sounds like he’s perfectly capable of getting a job. That means he’s only homeless if he wants to be.
NTA. Why do so many people have the exact same issue in this community? Do not become responsible for another adult. Unless you want to play parent for the rest of your life to a grown adult, do not enable them. There are different ways to help people such as providing them a meal every once in a while. Never, ever, become financially responsible for an able-bodied person because “we’re family”. Don’t be a doormat.
Because those people are raised to believe they are in fact responsible in everyway for other people. Dysfunction is more common than healthy in families today so it’s not really surprising that so many people have dysfunctional patterns.
Nta. He’s a grown up dude. Let him get his own place. You don’t need to suffer bc of him
Want him that you’re moving and tell him what he needs to be doing so that he’s not homeless. Bro, you’re an asshat that doesn’t work enough to support yourself.
Go get some extra job(s), stop smoking weed/gaming/being a lazy fuck, and pay your damn bills on time. I’m going to go live by myself again, because I prefer it. Get your shit together.
Only way your an AH if you didn’t give notice. NAH.
NTA. We’ve had to lay down rules with blood family that we cannot and willnot let them live with us EVER for similar behavior.
NTA. He’s an adult and can figure his own shit out.
NTA You want more independence and you want to know that the bills will be paid and that the place won’t be messy. Your brother is an adult and he can either sink or swim. It’s time for you to grow on your own.