I was born in the United States to immigrant parents who’ve both moved from India. They’ve both lived here for around 20 years but recently my mom has been wanting to go back. She feels like she hasn’t been able to fit in and misses her old lifestyle and friends. She’s stopped working and is know almost in a depressive state and always crying whenever there is something going on in India like a wedding without her. However, I can’t see myself moving to India. I’ve only been two times and in both times I got really sick and almost hospitalized. I also only speak Hindi and can not write or read it whatsoever. I feel like I’ve worked so hard in school and it’s almost unfair to uproot me and take me across the world. I’m top of my class in a very competitive school, president of our biggest club, scored a 35 on the act after self studying, and accomplished so much more. My dad said we can start a family business in India but I want to go into stem. I’ve even told my mom that she can live in India for a while and I can take care of myself here but she wants our whole family to move.
Am I being ungrateful for not wanting to move?
You wouldn’t be “going back” you’re not from there. You want to stay where you’re from.
20 years is a long time, a lot will have changed, you can’t simply go back to your old life like it was before. It’s naive of her to think going back will be just like before. Them also not understanding you’re from the US born and raised, India will be foreign for you, is silly. NTA