AITA story
My mom (41) makes me (14) and my brother (16) take turns each week washing dishes and if we miss one day we rewash an extra day, my brother missed a day during his week so he had to rewash dishes an extra day. I had washed dishes the night before but forgot 5 dishes that were left on the counter because there was no room in the sink nor the counter beside it. My mom told me that I had forgotten those five dishes so I washed them. We finished dinner and my mom had asked whose turn was to wash the dishes so I told her it was my brothers, she told him it was his turn but he reminded her that I had left 5 dishes and she came back to me and told me that it was my turn bc I forgot the five dishes. Because of the five dishes me and my brother argued about whose turn it really was. I told him it was his turn because it was only five and I didn’t forget to wash dishes the night before I had only forgotten about those, and he told me that I still left dishes so I had to rewash. We kept arguing about it so we asked our parents for their opinion and they sided with him because I had left dishes and I told them that it didn’t make sense because five forgotten dishes aren’t the equivalent to a dinner amount of dishes. So, in order to shut us up our mom had told us that she would wash dishes and me and my brother told her to make the one in the wrong do it. My mom made me seem like the lazy one because she had told me that whenever I don’t want to wash dishes I would make my brother wash an extra day but when ever I’m in the wrong I’ll try to find a way out and justify my way.
So in all this AITA for not wanting to wash dishes for a whole day for forgetting five dishes even when I washed the night before?
Info: Did you get reminded and cleaned the 5 dishes on the same night or the next day?
Ngl a half done chore is not a completed chore and this kind of situation will cause you a lot of drama when you become an adult and have a relationship.
Yall do realize the time you spent arguing could have been used to just wash the dishes and be done with it…right???
YTA
When your brother missed dishes when it was his turn, he washed for an extra day.
You missed dishes when it was your turn – you wash for an extra day.
These are the rules as you’ve stated them. Why should everyone *except* you have to follow them?
How many people are in your house or what kind of cooking is going on that the whole sink and the counter are so full of dishes that 5 more dishes are left somewhere else?
NTA. You washed the dishes the 1st night, when the random 5 were pointed out you washed them too. So you did do the dishes from the night before.
Yes and to be fair i live with a big family of 10 that a lot dishes end up piling up in the sink where it won’t fit in it most of the time
10 people and only one person is assigned to wash dishes each night? My brother and I were both in the hook for after dinner dishes – one would wash and the other would dry
Why don’t you both wash and dry up together every day. It would get done quicker and no arguments.
Your mom’s right. You were in the wrong. Then you tried to weasel your way out of it by making up little technicalities- which sounds to be known pattern. C’mon bruh, ain’t gunna kill you to do the dishes an extra day.
YTA
Do the dishes, and go give your mother a hug. Sometimes the punishment for forgetting is bigger than it should, this will not be the last time you experience this in life. I am sure your parents have more than enough to do than spend an entire day being a judge between you and your brother in an argument about the one chore they ask you to do, that you both share!
you should have both just done the dishes tbh.
YTA you forgot part of the dishes. Most people look around the kitchen and wipe down the counters as part of doing the dishes. It shouldn’t have to be do this dishes only I’m and around the sink.
NTA.
But rule #4: many hands make light work. (If you see something needing to be done, do it.) If everyone picks up the slack, there is no slack remaining at the end of the day.
That said, there is always someone that will find ways to get out of work.
You should have scanned the kitchen before declaring your job done.
Your brother, in consideration of rule 4, should/could have sucked it up and just did five extra dishes, but was within his right to call you out.
Here’s where it gets tricky. In the future, if he leaves dishes, you can either be as petty as him, or just do them and not complain.
How he reacts will give you a fair amount of insight into his character.
He may acknowledge it by saying something, or returning the grace in the future.
Or he may act like he can get one over on you every now and again.
Life is not fair. But you can choose to suck it up and drive on, or fight the uphill battle of trying to make it fair. But remember, your own brother took the chance to screw you over, over five dishes. The outside world is no better.
If you were driving a car and didn’t SEE the stop sign, therefore did not stop- did you run the sign? Did you fail to stop? YES. Wa it your fault you didn’t SEE the sign? Was it hidden by trees or were you lookng ahead and not notice the Faded sign? Should you get a ticket for running the sign / failure to stop / failure to obey read rules ? Well my dear: you will get the ticket . You can explain in court why you did not stop ,but you’re getting a ticket .
..did you wash All the dishes? NO
Did you jyst not see the 5 dishes or were they hidden ? When you Did see them you washed right away . ( when you saw police lights you Did Stop right away ! ….but did you stop AT THE SSIGN ? As Law Rrequired?)
Next morning when you saw dishes you did wash em ! However: You should’ve got the extra wash
for reasons stated above.