So, this weekend I invited my friend group to a meeting in my house as we are going to the university next week, so it was our last group meeting until next vacations as some of them study very far from our city
In a moment, a friend told me another friend have known that we where together and don’t invite him (is not the first time this situation happened) and the friend that told me about hi knowing said that I should have invited him and I was wrong for not doing it
But what make me fell I’m not wrong for that is simple: my friend group don’t like him!!! They said very often that his is annoying, say bad things about him, etc. so why would I invite someone to a place 1 ou 2 people like him?
And in this night I’ve been thinking about it and want more people’s opinions about if I was a asshole
NTA I have been in similar situation if ur friend group doesn’t like him and u guys are meeting for one last time before going to the uni , it’s totally justified…. U shouldn’t think abt validating others feelings by sacrificing ur own space comfort and time
NTA
But has anyone been honest to this person that you don’t like him, and why?
Actually I am one of the 2 people that like this friend, but I don’t won’t someone I like to be in a place I know basically no one besides me like him
Ok, but that didn’t really answer my question.
You are free to invite or not invite whomever you want, which is why I gave the NTA rating. But does this person know why they’re being excluded?
Ohh okay… actually the person don’t know why, but I never have talk about this either
That must be really hard for that person. Someone should probably have an open conversation with him about what’s happening.
NTA you’re the host and the biggest rule for hosting an event no matter how formal or casual is making sure that the attendees either all get along already or that their personalities will mesh well together. The hardest events to plan are the ones with mandated guests that don’t all get along because either you have several contingency plans to keep them separate or one or more people gets their feelings hurt.
If you friend wants to invite this other dude then he can host.
Actually the same friend that told me about have hosted the meeting in his house and invited this friend
Well then that’s his choice when he’s hosting. He doesn’t get to make the choice when he’s not hosting. Inviting someone to someone else’s house or forcing an invite to someone else’s house is incredibly rude and this guy was being a horrible guest.
NTA. You didn’t invite someone your whole friend group openly dislikes,,,,,, inviting him would’ve been awkward for everyone. But your group needs to be honest about whether you’re actually friends with him instead of this ongoing cycle of exclusion.
NTA 😅 If your group genuinely doesn’t vibe with him, forcing him into the meeting would’ve been awkward for *everyone*. Sometimes it’s not about being mean—it’s just smart guest management 😂✨
NTA. You didn’t invite someone who isn’t a part of your friend group. He’s your friend, but he’s not their friend. I’d say to try to meet with this friend separately instead.