Tomorrow is my birthday. I invited my mom to go to the cinema with me because I wanted to spend a calm evening together. Today I ordered sushi for myself. My plan was to eat some of it and leave part for her later. I didn’t explicitly say that when I ordered, and she assumed I ordered food only for myself.
She got very upset, said it was selfish, told me she wouldn’t go anywhere with me anymore, angrily threw money at me, and said “happy birthday” in a sarcastic way.
For context: My dad later said that they always order food “for the whole family” and that I should have done the same. I didn’t see it that way at the time and didn’t mean to exclude anyone -I just wanted a quiet evening and planned to share later.
AITA?
What the fuck is up with your family that you can’t order yourself a damn treat without the rest of em swooping in like vultures? Nta.
Your mother is behaving like a child.
Yta someone else should have ordered the food for u, its ur birthday
INFO: did your mother arrive while you were scoffing food in front of her? Did she have to wait for you to eat?
INFO: Why didn’t you tell her that part of it was for her?
rude to eat in front of someone and not even offer…imho
INFO: do you live with your parents? If so, soft YTA since it’s common courtesy to ask the people you live with if they wanted anything, especially if they always order for everyone.
Very soft YTA – Only because this is something you should have communicated with her. However, your moms’ behavior was outrageous.
YTA-if somebody is around you, it’s polite to ask them if they want food not to just order for yourself. Your plan to share “leftovers” is also tacky.
Soft YTA you should have communicated the plan. Based on the way I read you ordered or ate in front of your mom with no context. A simple I’m going to order food to share or do you want anything would have gone a long way
YTA
You ordered food for yourself but planned on eventually giving your mom the leftover scraps? That’s not just rude. It’s insulting.
Why would you invite someone round to spend the evening with you, then order food without considering if they might want to eat with you, then think “i could’ve given them my leftovers” – let’s be honest, you never planned to share, you’ve cooked up the leftover part to make you seem less selfish but honestly it just comes across as thoughtless at best.
And to do this to your own mother too. Hard YTA in this situation. If you wanted a quiet night to eat sushi by yourself, don’t invite anyone over.
INFO Needed: Do you live with your parents? Or did your mom come over to your place? Was this right before you were going to the cinema together?
INFO: How old are you? Are you living with your parents?