In January my girlfriend decided she wanted to lose some weight. We’ve both started being more consistent with the gym and will go 3 times a week The thing is my gf isn’t really doing more at the gym than she used to. She does maybe an extra 5 mins on a cardio machine.
In terms of meals, she’s reduced the portions of some of the things she eats but not most of it.
She was complaining last night about not being able to lose weight despite trying for months. She said she doesn’t know why she’s not losing weight. I mentioned potentially weighing her food or tracking what she eats but she said she doesn’t want to be doing that.
I mentioned trying to go for walks and aiming for 10,000 steps on non gym days but she refused that also.
She won’t actually weigh herself so she doesn’t actually know if she’s losing, maintaining or gaining weight. We cooked dinner then she immediately started adding a lot of cheese. The meal didn’t even need cheese and is fine without it so I mentioned to her to maybe use less cheese and she refused that and said she didn’t use much.
Later the night she was complaining again about not losing weight but I just said it sounds like she expects a lot of results quickly for minimal effort. I pointed out she refused every suggestion I made. I said if she’s serious about losing weight she has to put the work in.
She said I was blaming her for it but I just pointed out that yeah she needs to take some accountability for it when she openly admits she won’t actually do most things that will help her lose weight.
She accused me of calling her lazy and of fat shaming her but I just said that’s not what’s happening.
AITAH for telling my girlfriend to take some accountability regarding her not losing weight?