So this friend of 17 years did not greet me on my birthday even when most of our friends already posted on my timeline. She’s also friends with my sister and husband so it’s hard to miss their birthday greetings which I’m tagged in.
So today on her birthday, I did not greet her too.
She has a habit of being self-absorbed like her problems are more important than others so she could just say she had a family problem during my birthday.
Today of course she’s very active in our friends group chat making it all about her.
Do I have a reason to feel bad or am I being petty?
Are you sure this person is your friend? It does not sound like by the way you speak about them. Of course you are petty, you sound about 12. YTA
Seriously!?! The way the algorithm works I don’t always see my friend’s birthdays or the reminders, especially if life happens and I’m not online for a few days. You sound dramatic and need to get over yourself. Everything is not about you. YTA
YTA. Taking revenge? How old are you seriously…
YTA. How dare she make it about her on her birthday in your group chat. Are you actually just upset she hasn’t noticed/said anything about your failure to greet? Which is more she doesn’t value the “timeline greet” which would mean the ax you’ve been grinding since your bday was for naught?
this person has been your friend 17 years.. is the the first time she hasn’t said happy birthday?
YTA Life is not about social media posts or tagging or petty “paybacks”. If your friend has a tendency to be self absorbed you deal with that separately. But you don’t seem to really like this person so you should ask yourself if she is really a friend anyway.
Maybe she is cutting back on social media. Just because someone doesn’t post on your timeline doesn’t make them a jerk. Yeah, this is petty.
YTA and doubling down by even posting IMHO proves the pettiness
YTA and petty. She didn’t do it on purpose but you are. I miss people’s birthday sometime because I don’t even kow what day it is. When I saw that 17 I was hoping it was your age because that would at least be an excuse for this level of petty.
YTA. It’s ok to feel bad. Not ok to act petty in return. Live by your standards, don’t lower yourself to hers.
YTA. If, after being this petty and obsessed about it, you’re still having feelings about it, then you’re definitely the asshole.
People can go a day without looking at social media.
Sometimes life gets in the way.
Stuff happens.
You sound extremely petty.
YTA – it sounds like you have other problems with this person, which you should discuss with them.
YTA. I definitely thought that the 17 was your age rather than the length of your friendship, because this is some teenager behavior. Grow up, be the kind of friend that you want to have, and if you have an issue with feeling like your friends aren’t showing up for you, be an adult and discuss it with them.
YTA.. Sorry but she literally just could’ve not gone on her phone or certain apps that day. All you’re doing is being petty. God forbid someone forget it’s your birthday for the first time in 17 years of being friends, it doesn’t even sound like you like her💀