Be me (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (16F) for a few months. Earlier in the week, we agreed that we would spend Saturday together. No specific activity was planned, but we both agreed on the day and time. Because of that, I did not make any other plans.
On Saturday morning, my girlfriend texted me saying she had decided to go out with her friends instead. She said she might be available later in the evening, but she wasn’t sure. She did not ask me beforehand and informed me after the decision was already made.
I replied that we had already agreed to spend the day together and that I had kept the day free. After that, she said she should be allowed to make spontaneous plans and that changing plans wasn’t a big deal. The conversation ended in a heated argument we both haven’t talked since.
AITA for bringing up the fact that we had already made plans and expecting them to be followed?
NTA for being upset but hopefully you’ll get the message — you’re not her first priority or she would have respected your time and plans together. Break up with her and move on so you can find someone who values you more.
YTA. sure, its not right to change plans the way she did, but you are a 18 year old dating a 16 year old expecting maturity.
Expecting a 16 year old to follow through on plans they agreed to does not make someone an asshole.
For real. Keeping your word isn’t that difficult a concept. I’m pretty sure they taught that one in Cub Scouts.
Its 2 years, there’s not some exponential maturity growth between the 2 ages, a 16yo should know its disrespectful.
NTA but keep in mind you’re both so young, her especially. You haven’t been together all that long, and she probably isn’t used to the concept of prioritisng the plan she committed to first. I have friends in their late 20s that still do this, but most people grow out of it. Have the conversation with her that you expect her to keep the day free if you both agree on it, and I hope for both of you that she sticks to that. If not, might be a much more serious conversation to consider having.
youre a senior dating a freshman bro this is the minimum you deserve lmao
16 is sophomore-junior. If 16 was freshman you’d be in high school until your 19.
You’re dumb…. freshman are 14/15. Sophomores are 15/16 and Juniors are 16/17.
Signed the mother of a High School JUNIOR who just turned 17 in December…. most of his classmates are currently 16 turning 17 (including 1 who just turned 17 on FRIDAY).
No fucking Freshman is 16 unless they have been held back and then that’s on them!
NTA you’re girlfriend was inconsiderate and immature with how she handled things
I mean she was on the wrong for changing plans last minute… However if all you do is just hang out at each other’s house or worse is just she watching you gaming all day I can see why se rather go out with her friends.
So for now ESH cause is just your side of the story and you could be boring
YTA for dating a 16 year old child and thinking they might act like an adult.
Am I the only one stuck on “she did not ask me beforehand”????
Me at 16 all the way to 19 all my plans were spontaneous… I’d never expect anything to be certain unless you had specific plans to see a movie or something. 16 year olds are still figuring life out and trying to make the most of it (technically 18 yr olds too) you live and you learn. I don’t think it’s that serious, I think it would be lame if yall were grown adults and not teenagers but none of you are technically the AH. I understand both perspectives.