So my friends and I planned a group holiday months ago. I booked my flights and hotel early and got a really good deal. Some of the others procrastinated, and now prices have gone up a lot.
They now want to split the total cost equally, so “no one feels bad” about paying more. That would mean I pay significantly more than what I actually spent, just because I planned ahead.
They say it’s about “fairness” and “group vibes”, and that I’m being selfish over money on a vacation that’s supposed to be fun. I feel like punishing someone for planning responsibly is unfair.
I’m happy to split shared expenses like food, cabs, activities, etc., but I don’t want to subsidize their late booking.
AITA for saying no and sticking to what I actually paid?
That’s a wild request. NTA but I’m not sure I’d want to go on the trip with these friends who seem to have very weird and entitled views about cost sharing.
Agreed. This sounds like a lousy vacation set up. How the heck do they even know what you paid? If I am being generous, I might say that hotel costs could be rolled together into the group Splitwise, but I have never including plane tickets in the cost of a group vacation. Is everyone flying the same flight?
Yeah. Same hotel. Same flight. We agreed months ago on the flight and hotel to be booked. We kept discussing in our WA group that we should close the bookings since closure to date prices will increase. I booked mine and then shared it in the group to let everyone know that I have done the bookings and even asked them to do the same. But alas!
NTA but also be ready for your friends to bail on the trip.
NTA. Why should you be penalized for being organized and smart? That’s just ridiculous. Your “friends” should be asking you how you did it so they can learn. Instead they’ve decided to be jealous and juvenile. I find the word ‘fairness’ to be especially silly. They need to grow up or you need to get better friends.
It’s always about “fairness” and “being a team player” when someone wants to put their hand in your pocket.
Sounds more like “group vibes” is guilt vibes or entitled vibes. Don’t pay more than you already have.
Why would you have to pay more if it’s already booked ?
NTA at all.
They wasted time and didn’t plan ahead. You did. You don’t deserve to basically be punished for thinking ahead like an adult.
I would tell them I’m not paying more because I’ve already booked my stuff so MY vacation is ready to go 🤷♀️
You’ve already paid , why the fuck should you pay again? And also, I’d seriously think about being friends with people who use phrases like “group vibes”.
NTA
This is why everyone books their own, so the procrastinators don’t screw everyone over.
How exactly would their way work? You have over your $$ to people because their flights are more expensive?
You add everyone’s flight costs up and divide by the number of people… then you owe them the difference?
Example:
You $600
1. $800
2. $850
3. $825.
4. $900
$3975 / 5 =$795.00 per person, and you owe $195 more and must pay each person to make it fair?
Make that make sense.
I’d they’d have gotten amazing last-minute deals, would they be knocking on your door to give you money to keep it fair? Absolutely not, which is what you should say to this ludicrous request. NTA
NTA but you associate and travel with assholes