My partner was asked to go on a stag doo, I earn the vast majority of our household income. His friends said it would be £300 and we’d have 6 months to pay, would this be affordable, at £50 per month if said it would. 1 week later the goalposts changed and it was £300 needed in a week, my partner told his friend we couldn’t afford that all at once so he agreed to pay it in stages and gave him £100 initially.
Fast forwards another few weeks and compulsory extras were added making the new total £1000 for a few day trip! Me and partner discussed it and decided we couldn’t afford that kind of money. He contacted his friend who said if he was dropping out he still had to pay the full £300 for flights and hotel as said friend had paid for everyone on his own credit card.
December comes around and friend can’t afford Christmas presents for his kids as his card is maxed out and demands full payment of the £200, my partner pays him another £100 as that’s all we can afford. February comes around and he’s now demanding the other £100.
AITA if I say he needs to wait until next payday, after all this is paying for a trip my partner isn’t even going on!
This is bullshit – don’t give this schemer another cent. I get the logic of your partners still needing to pay the £300 based on his earlier confirmation, but 1) the constantly shifting numbers and timeline, and 2) the fact that your partner gave him a good amount of notice that he could no longer go make me think this is a bit of a scam.
The ONLY way I would even contemplate giving him that last 100 is if he shows you proof that he bought the plane tix and made the hotel reservation before your partner dropped out, and that he shows you proof that both are non refundable. The fact that the friend need money to buy his kids Christmas presents makes me think the “friend” is simply overextended and making a cash grab.
I wouldn’t even want to be friends with someone like this.
NTA
if you are paying for flight and hotel your partner should go on the trip and just skip some of the add-ons.
100% he’ll find out friend sold that ticket and hotel room to someone else.