I offered to help a coworker move a few boxes into their new apartment after work. They said it wouldn’t take long maybe 30 minutes and I agreed because I had the time and wanted to be helpful. After work, I drove over, helped carry everything upstairs, and we finished in about the time promised. Before I left, they thanked me and said they were all set. About an hour later, after I was already back home, they messaged me saying they had decided to rearrange the apartment and wanted me to come back and move everything again because it would be faster with two people. I told them I couldn’t come back. I had already helped, had settled in for the night, and hadn’t agreed to multiple trips or redoing the work. They got upset and said I was being unhelpful and that they wouldn’t have asked in the first place if they knew I wouldn’t be flexible. The next day at work, they were noticeably cold toward me and mentioned to another coworker that it was disappointing when people half-help. I feel like I kept my word and helped exactly as promised, but now I’m wondering if refusing to come back made me look selfish. AITA for saying no after already helping once?
NTA, your coworker sucks.
NTA. You already fulfilled your end of the favor and it’s not fair for them to change their mind and expect you to drop everything you were doing
NTA. You did do the favor. They asked for an ADDITIONAL favor. You in fact owed them ZERO favors.
lmao. No good deed goes unpunished. I would loudly tell anyone who would listen about the audacity of this person, who thinks they have the right to the whole arm when you offered to lend just a hand. Two can play at that game. Nothing whatsoever selfish about not wanting to continue to help when you’ve already done so. This person is ungrateful af. NTA.
NTA. The coworker asked you for a favor and you did it. Just because you declined the second favor doesn’t mean you were unhelpful. I would suggest not doing favors for them again if they are going to be an AH about it.
NTA. You did what you said you were going to do and followed through. If he changed his mind and wanted to rearrange things, that is not your problem.
Just helping at all- especially after work, was more than enough. Your co- worker is being selfish and ungrateful. NTA
Wow. NTA
When you ask someone to do you a favour, you need to be the one to make sure you make the best use of their time, lay out what’s needed and have it ready to go. The first half sounded great, the second half was an after-thought, they asked you ANOTHER favour because THEY didn’t have their s&\^t together.
Now they’re just venting becuase of their poor planning.
Wow your coworker is the A H, you on the other hand NTA. The level of entitlement is insane. I’d be petty and share with other colleagues how weird they are with their entitlement.
NTA, not even a little bit. It was completely out of line for them to even ask you to come back like that. This isn’t even a gray area. They are flat out in the wrong.
NTA. You can help a person 100 times, but if you refuse once, they will only remember that one time.
NTA
Consenting to move their boxes once does not imply or create automatic consent to move their boxes again.
NTA. But sometimes ain’t it nice when people show you exactly who they are. Imagine if that had been a work assignment where you learned they’re a flake? At least now you know, keep far away from that one.
YOu already helped them, they can’t demand you come back to redo things… NTA – if they keep being hostile you might need to go to HR for them creating a toxic work environment…