This is a bit of a time sensitive post since the situation is still developing, but I (16 F) am currently in a fight with my mom (38 F) over a turtleneck. This may not sound like a big deal, but it is personal to me. My mother’s birthday is today, and she requested that I wear a pink dress to her party. Fine, no big deal. The problem is that the dress that I chose is a tank top. I have a cardigan on over it, but my mom is insisting that it is too revealing since it doesn’t go above my collarbone. I know that this is a bit of a silly thing for me to get upset about, but the dress was a gift from my grandma (her mom), so I feel like her "family traditions" that she uses for her reason as to why she doesn’t like it is a complete lie. I’m not completely sure, though. AITAH?
UPDATE: My parents are now threatening to kick me out of the house because of this decision and I don’t know what to do. I have autism and turtlenecks feel like literal hell to me, but I don’t want to be kicked out of my house over a sweater
No. I never wear clothing that constricts my throat. Do your best, and mom will still love you.
If it’s modest enough for your grandma I’d think it’s fine. Especially with a cardigan on.
At your age you get to pick what you wear. And it sounds fine and your mother wanting everything to cover your collarbone is just unreasonable. And besides that it’s just none of her business. You get to decide.
NTA
Please call Grandma immediately andask her to help you. Tell her what’s going on and that you’re being threatened with homelessness.
Hopefully she’ll either be able to sort things out with your parents or offer you a place to live.
NTA. You are 16. If they kick you out go straight to the nearest police station and report it, it is literally illegal for them to do that. You are old enough to refuse wear any item of clothing you do not want to wear, and if your parents have to explain that they threw you out over a shirt to the police it will not play well for them.
A collarbone is too revealing? The year 1605 called. They want your mom to come back home.
Ugh turtlenecks are itchy what the heck is wrong with your family?! I’m so sorry.
If you are 16, your parents cant legally kick you out. If they do, call the police.
Why does it have to be tank top or turtleneck? Could you wear a pink tshirt underneath the tank top? It’s not exactly fashionable but it’s a compromise.
OP said they were going to wear a cardigan over it and that’s not good enough for her mom.
Typically when I wear a cardigan I wear it open in the front, so the offending collarbone would still be visible. A t shirt underneath would let the pink show through and cover the skin.
I personally think moms request if unreasonable, but sometimes safety and housing is more important.
NTA. I understand because I can’t wear turtlenecks either. I feel like I’m being strangled. Anyway, wearing a cardigan over it sounds like a fair compromise. Your parents are being extreme.
I’m not a lawyer, but I’m pretty sure your parents can’t just kick you out. You have to have somewhere to go. It also seems odd that people who profess to care about what you wear to a family birthday dinner would actually kick their child out over something so minor. Your parents are ridiculous!
NTA, you couldn’t pay me to wear a turtleneck and can we please stop sexualizing children and telling them not to show too much around their family?? It’s fuckin WEIRD
Why are your parents being emotionally abusive. Can you live with your grandma. I cant imagine why they’d force the turtleneck knowing you have autism
excuse me? too revealing? revealing what 😭
huge NTA, i have autism too, and i 100% second that turtlenecks are the spiky itchy hell on earth. i’d rather wear a cactus