me (18F) and kissed a girl (19F) several months ago, and we didn’t talk anymore because I didn’t like some things she said/did, and she didn’t like me for it since then. But we have a friend in common, which is my best friend, and she always said she was extremely sad because we didn’t get along. So today she made a house party, and invited both of us to come. i didn’t want to go at first but i thought “why not? maybe we’ll get a fresh start”, and i was SO wrong. At first, things was going smooth and we talked about several things, until we started a girl talk, drinking and playing games, and the topic “being sl4pped during a kiss” came. she said “ooh i like it”, and i said i didn’t, without any intention. but during our kiss, she got physical, and i totally forgot about that, (even though it was kinda embarrassing bc she did that in our FIRST kiss). she literally turned red, then her face faded totally. everyone laughed it off and i said sorry to her and explained why i dont like it, and she was ok bc she didn’t know it. but it didn’t work. the rest of the night was terrible, she scrolling on her phone and asking to her friend to go home. eventually they did went home and that said friend said “sorry, she’s always like that, and you can’t control what you say. you didn’t meant any harm”. but my best friend went feral with it. she said i could’ve just be quiet and now she doesn’t talk to me. she said that girl send her messages but didn’t want to tell me, which is unusual because we’re this type of friend who always tell stuff to each other. my bestfriend said she’s not mad at me but at the situation, but i can see she blame me the most. some of our other friends said that the girl was trying to find a reason to dislike me, and that she overreacted about the situation in general. I understand that we can’t control what we feel, but at the same time i don’t think she needed to cause a scene by going home and talking shit abt me to our friend in common. i would like to hear opinions, because i can’t see a reason why everything’s happening this way. so, AITA?
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I remember being in English class and doing the snarky teenage “why do we have to learn this if we already speak English?”.
I hereby apologize to every English grammar teacher in the world. 😔
no cause literally 🥹 i was js venting nonstop and forgot about it
NTA.
Based on what you say, you didn’t call her out specifically, you just stared you don’t like that particular act. She never should have done that to you without explicit consent. You have every right not to like it, and every right to state that you don’t like it.
thank you. maybe i should’ve avoided saying sorry with everyone around, but everyone knew we kissed once and all that happened because everyone were really close or with me or with her, so at the moment i didn’t think it was a big of a deal
NTA and your best friend is being weird about this. You stated a preference in a group conversation and didnt even remember it was connected to her until after the fact. The fact that she left the party and started sending messages about you tells you she was never going to give you a real chance anyway and was just waiting for a reason to bail.
thank you so much for your opinion, i thought i was going nuts into thinking that i was not in the wrong since my bsf almost roasted me