Some of my friends organised a hangout amongst themselves, deciding on the time and place. Very late at night, the day before the hangout, one of them (‘Anna’) messages me and a couple more friends and asks if we’d like to come. I read these messages the next morning, so it was too late to attend.
When I met Anna, and when we started talking about the hangout, she told me that she invited my other friends and I because she knew that one of our other friends (‘Sara’), would be hurt if she knew they were hanging out without her. She said she invited even though she knew Sara and I wouldn’t come. For some reason, I then decided to say that I wouldn’t have gone if Sara was not going anyway, because it would’ve been awkward as apart from Anna and a couple others, I’m not entirely very close with the other people who were present. I also said that I’m pretty sure that they (the friends I’m not very close to) wouldn’t have wanted me there.
Looking back, I feel this was pretty rude and petty on my side. So, do you all think I was the AH?
We were all about 15/16.
NTA
I mean you could just say oh thanks for the invite but I have other plans, or hey maybe another time. You dont have to justify why you dont want to hangout with a group of people.
And you can always initiate a hangout with the core people you like, nothing wrong with that.