My mom (55) started crocheting on the way to the gathering and my dad started yelling at her saying why is she bringing that, to have some manners and that to think of the people thats going to be there. My mom said it isnt like shes doing anything wrong in nature, and nothing distracting or bad. But my dad wasnt having it, and was still hammering my mom on it. My sister said she can understand both sides, but more of my dads. she said since its an event, people are supposed to talk there and not be disrespectful and do your own thing. she said its not our house to be doing that. I said this event is made up of our family, no strangers or anything. at a wedding i can sort of understand to not do it, but even still i dont think its wrong to do it at family gatherings. Im with my mom on this one. Am i the asshole for having this point of view? that crochet can be done anywhere, that it isnt rude and it doesnt harm anyone
NTA – does your sister think your mom can’t talk while she’s keeping her hands busy?
Your dad sounds like an asshole, too.
I agree, let’s vote dad the asshole. Lol
NTA – it keeps her hands busy and she can still visit with relatives. When I was growing up, all my aunts and grandma would sit around knitting and chatting.
NTA. I’m Team Mom. And tell your father to knock it off, it’s Thanksgiving.
Although, if this is your worst family argument today, you’re miles ahead of about 99% of the country.
Maybe I’m a weirdo, I don’t think it would be rude at a non family gathering and I would be fine with it publicly. Especially if it is something mom doesn’t need to pay careful attention to or read a pattern.
It’s a fidget. Some of us work better if we have something to do with our hands and I appreciate DOING something a lot more than just spinning something around. Also, it is a conversation starter and can be bonding. I think they are being quite mean to your mom.
Your dad is a massive a hole
NTA I bring my crochet to most family gatherings. I can talk and work at the same time. I don’t let it consume me, so like if cornhole or card games are set up, I put the crochet away and participate.
Will sister be on her phone taking pics of her food and texting the whole time? NTA, mom is an adult.
Easy NTA. Many thanksgivings ive been to over the years, the men eat and then fall asleep in the recliner or sit and watch a sports game lol your mother doing her hobby in the same room as everyone isnt rude at all. I could see if she hid away and did it but no. This is silly.
I hate your dad.
thank you for the positive comments guys. i felt like i was alone on this one, i crochet as well! and i felt weird now for crocheting while im here. but now i might whipe it out and start making some ducks
It’s really normal in my family for people to crochet or knit during gatherings. Who can’t carry on a pleasant conversation while knitting or crocheting? That was the whole point of knitting circles back in the day, when a bunch of people would get together to work on their projects and gossip together.
It’s not like she’s doing her own thing in the corner and hissing at people who are trying to talk – some people are better able to navigate social situations if they have something in their hands.
I knit everywhere. I don’t listen with my hands. And it helps me to stay calm. Better than a couple of drinks.
A good thing about crocheting is you can crochet and talk with people at the same time. It’s great from people who fidget a lot (like me)