**there is no lock on the bathroom door and there never has been one since I was born. That is why it wasn’t locked.**
I’m 22f. I live with my mom, and dad. My older sister was here with her son (my nephew, 4m) last weekend. I took a break and went into the bathroom. While I was sitting there, the door suddenly burst open and someone started to come in!!! I reacted by screaming and slamming the door shut and yelling “WHAT THE FUCK SOMEONE IS IN HERE” and then I hear my nephew start crying. I finished up in the bathroom and went out to tell him not to do that again
My sister came rushing across the room to console him which yeah is normal he’s upset. She asked me what happened and I said he burst into the bathroom when I was in there. SHE LOST HER MIND AT ME. She started yelling what the fuck is wrong with me and why I would slam the door in his face like that.
i said maybe she didn’t hear me but I WAS IN THE BATHROOM AND HE JUST WALKED IN and she was like “So? He’s a CHILD. He was just wanting to talk to his auntie”
I said that’s fine but I was IN THE BATHROOM he doesn’t need to be in there when I’m in there. She and I just argued about it for like 3 minutes until my mom came in and told me that I overreacted. I said what the fuck am I supposed to do when someone barges into the bathroom like that? They kept saying that he just wanted to talk to me and I kept saying that I get that but I WAS IN THE BATHROOM. Why is he trying to get behind a closed door he has no business getting behind??? Like why would he come into the bathroom to talk to me that is SO disgusting and nasty and privacy invading!!! WTF! Am I wrong am I the asshole?
**there is no lock on the bathroom door and there never has been one since I was born. That is why it wasn’t locked.**
“I yelled like a maniac, made a 4-year-old cry, and then called him a pervert. AITAH?”
> Like why would he come into the bathroom to talk to me that is SO disgusting and nasty and privacy invading!!! WTF!
Girl, he’s 4. He doesn’t know better but you do. Maybe use a lock and work on your anger issues.
YTA. He’s 4 and you’re an adult, act like an adult. It would have been simple…”No buddy, I’m using the bathroom, please get out and close the door. Thank you.” A teaching moment for a child. Instead, you acted like a 4-year-old and had a tantrum.
YTA. Why would you act like that toward any of the people in your house? Even if the screaming and slamming was reflex (still an overreaction) why would you start yelling and swearing?
Are you okay, OP? This is very much an overreaction, and I’m guessing it was even more so in person, as people tend to paint themselves in a better light when asking for judgement.
You def overreacted, yeah, but I don’t get your sister’s position. “He just wanted to talk to his auntie” wtf? Right now he may be too young for grasp the significance of boundaries, but your sis doesn’t sound like she is planning teach him that AT ALL.
I wonder, if her response remains the same when he’ll be 10-14 years old and older…
YTA
1) He’s FOUR YEARS OLD. Screaming at a 4-year-old is NOT justifiable.
2) Slamming the door like that is a good way to break little fingers.
You lost your temper and terrified a preschooler. Stop trying to justify it.
YTA. Why not just tell him, this is not the place to talk? I’ll be done in a minute, next time knock and wait for an answer?
Why are you yelling at everyone? Including redditors? Your mom is right, you overreacted.
Everyone is saying that he’s 4. You do realize that habits are not solid yet for many 4yr olds? Most parents are making sure they wipe themselves clean after using the bathroom
Lastly, why were you taking a break in the bathroom? Go to your room, sit in a car, go to the basement (if you have one), etc.
YTA. Grow up.
YTA. Screaming obscenities at a 4 year old is bad enough. But you have since doubled down and tried defending it to your sister, your mom, and Reddit. If you were startled and felt bad afterwards it would maybe be one thing. But clearly you’re just an AH.
YTA Your last couple of sentences are… weird. Young children don’t understand situations the same way adults do. They’re impulsive and haven’t developed the reasoning to think through consequences. You’re not particularly observant if you don’t know this. Plus it sounds like you can be a bit too impulsive yourself for an adult!
YTA. He’s 4 not 14. You behaved like a lunatic, who slams a door and screams at a literal child. People might still help him in the toilet so he doesn’t understand. Have some humanity and Grow up.
Also don’t slam doors and swear at people in general. That’s rude as fuck. You owe your nephew and family an apology.
“Ope, sorry buddy I’m going potty, just a minute!” *push door closed gently*
That’s a reasonable response. Or even “Stop, I’m in here!”
Screaming and cussing is way over the top, a four year old doesn’t think the way you do.
I mean even if it was one of the adults in the house her response was incredibly inappropriate and over the top. If her mom didn’t realize she was in there and opened the door would she have started yelling and cussing at her mom? Or does she feel like she can get away with screaming and yelling only at a tiny child? Her whole response is bizarre to me for someone opening the bathroom door in a house, it’s not like they were in a public bathroom.
From her description of the event, she didn’t know it was him trying to come in until she heard him start crying. After she got out,the reasonable thing would be to sit down with him, apologize for yelling and explain to him that when someone is in the bathroom, it’s not polite to open the door or go in there.
Could’ve been a teaching moment. Instead OP chose chaos.